(Closed) Help Me Decide When to Send STDs for a Holiday Weekend Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: When should I send save the dates?
    February (11 months out) : (7 votes)
    27 %
    March (10 months out) : (2 votes)
    8 %
    April (9 months out) : (14 votes)
    54 %
    Other (please comment below) : (3 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 5
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    With so many people having to travel go ahead and send them in February as you’d like. BUT make sure that you’re 100% sure on inviting those people because you can’t send a STD and not send them an invite.

    Post # 6
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    Save The Dates have taken the place of an Enagement Announcement in the local Newspaper’s Social Pages.

    The old norm for those were either when the Engagement happened… OR up to a year in advance of the Wedding

    So there is no right or wrong

    Personally if you are looking at a Holiday Weekend I’d say 9 months to a year in advance would be a good window.

    Just make sure you’ve done all your homework in advance (as I’ve seen too many posts where Save-The-Date Cards have gone wrong)

    You will ONLY want to send out an STD to those people you are SURE you are going to Invite to the Wedding in so much as this paperwork says “Save the Date” (whereas an Old Fashioned Enagement Announcement doesn’t have that obligation)

    So make sure you’ve worked out things like…

    The Date – Your Budget – Guest List – and Venue in advance of sending anyone an STD.

    Makes for less issues down the road (“OMG we sent out Save-The-Date Cards to people, and now we cannot afford to invite them… what do we do?”)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 7
    1420 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    100% of my family is Out of Town (ranging from two people within a 3 hour drive, and 100 with over a 10+hr drive).  Most of my family also struggles financially, so we sent our Save-The-Date Cards out 12 months prior to the wedding to make sure they had ample time to set money aside for traveling.  

    Post # 8
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    For my MLK 2014 wedding, for which nearly 90% of the guest list is Out of Town, we sent Save-The-Date Cards in April.  So far, it seems like we gave enough notice for everyone (invites are going out this week, so I’ll let you how many really are able to make it soon)


    I’ll also add that even though our STD had our wedding website info, and a ton of people looked at the website (per the website’s counter) only 18 hotel rooms have been booked yet – immediate family and bridal party.  I don’t know that sending out Save-The-Date Cards earlier would have more people booking earlier. 🙂


    Post # 11
    10294 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I said “other” because I preferred to tell people individually, by way of phone call or note.  Also because there is no right or wrong time, though over a year is IMO excessive. 


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