- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Not quite in a pickle here, but potentially facing two counts of awkwardness and not sure how to resolve it. So I graduated college in 2007 and was in a sorority. During my 4 years there I met some wonderful ladies, including my pledge class. There were about 8 of us who got pretty close and did a lot of things together in college, but not all of us have stayed that close since graduation. Some have moved out of town, with others we just kind of drifted apart. No major fallouts or drama with any of them, just found myself closer to some girls than others – still care about all of them just not maybe as close of friends.
Anyway, two of the girls are in my bridal party and are dear, dear friends. 3 live OOT and I’m super close with one of them. 2 live in my city and while we are friendly, we don’t hang out much unless it’s all of us getting together.
Now here’s the first issue. All of them are invited to the wedding and all of them are coming. Obviously the two bridesmaids and the 3 OOT girls are invited to the rehearsal lunch, but not the 2 local girls because they are neither family, nor OOT, nor bridal party. Later that day I wanted to invite all the “sisters” to get nails done together and go out for cocktails because this is the first time since graduation that our original college group will all be reunited in the same city – yay! I’m worried however that the 2 local girls will feel awkward that the rest of us will have just come from the rehearsal lunch and they were excluded. What do you think? I’m not any closer to two of the OOT girls that I am to these local girls, but have to invite the OOT ones. FI’s parents are paying for lunch and I can’t just add another 4 people willy nilly (both local girls have SOs). Plus if I do that, where do I draw the line at inviting local friends who aren’t even close. So what do you think I should do/say to avoid the awkwardness or do you think the two local girls will understand?
Another issue is that aside from these sorority friends I also have some old friends coming into town and would love to see them as much as possible. Almost all of them are coming with their SOs, though and with the sorority reunion and girly activities like nails and cocktails it’s turning into a bit of a mini-bachelorette. I don’t NEED to make it a girls-only night, certainly, but I’m not sure my OOT friends’ boyfriends will want to come and I don’t want my guests to have to pick between their partners and my little outing. What should I do? Invite the guys to my cocktail evening after the nail salon and give the other OOT girlfriends the choice to come out to the nails salon before? I mean, everyone is an adult and can make their own decisions. I’m just not sure how to maximize my time with everyone without their dates feeling left out. FI is doing his own boy things the night before the wedding, BTW.
Sorry this is long. Please let me know what you think. Thanks so much!