- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
In the beginning of our relationship I always had to initiate with Fiance…..I got me really paranoid and I went through the same issues as you with confidence.
I finally talked to Fiance about it and he told me that he didn’t want to feel rejected or that he was taking advantage. When I questioned him further about his answer he told me it was how he was made to feel with his ex girlfirend…..she would reject him and berate him for picking a bad time to initiate. He got so scared of the backlash from his ex that he stopped initiating with her….and it flowed into his relationship with me.
I told him I wouldn’t behave like that ever….and no problems ever since.
MY point OP is to ask if this is a behaviour that has arisen from your SO’s past relationships?
Also he may probably think that when you initaite its all fine on the yeast infection front. He probably doesn’t initiate because he feels bad that if he asks and you are unable to go ahead for med reasons that you’ll feel bad and get frustrated and upset. I had thrush a few years ago and it took me a few months after treatment for sex to go back to normal and to not be painful….that could also be a reason why your hubby doesnt want to initiate….he doesn’t want to hurt you.
You really need to sit down with your hubby and talk about it…..I’m sure he has reasons.