(Closed) Help Me Get Started…

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

First thing you need to do is set a budget.  Then work out the bigger details like venue, catering etc.  And trickle down from there.

Post # 4
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1112 posts
Bumble bee

Hey. I feel ya. Take a deep breath. πŸ™‚

First of all, I love your wedding date! Know that old song, “On the first warm day, on the first warm day in May…” It reminds me of that. Haha. πŸ™‚

Don’t feel pressured. You have almost a year and a half til you say I do. When people are up in your business wanting updates, kindly tell them you are just enjoying being engaged right now, before you hop into wedding planning. This will be GREAT for you and your FH, because it will allow you to reflect on the committment you recently made, and the bigger committment you will make next year. It is huge! If you rush through it and it’s all about business and booking and colors and cakes, you will lose the thrill of the love between you. Don’t let that happen before you have to. Ease into planning. πŸ™‚

Realistically speaking, the very FIRST thing you need to think of is your venue. WHERE do you want to get married? Do you want the reception in the same place as the ceremony? Or in a different location? Your venue will determine a LOT about the rest of your wedding. It can help with what kind of colors you want, what kind of dress you have, etc.

Think of your guest list. About how many people will you invite? This can be overwhelming, I know. To start out, I just made a Word document and started making a numbered list. 1) Grandma. 2) Grandpa. 3) Uncle. 4) Aunt. 5) Cousin. Just keep going. Write down everyone you know that you can think of. When you “finish,” think of how many of those people you could realistically invite to the wedding. Go from there. Erase the names who are low priority. Move family and close friends to the top of the list. This will help you with a venue and a budget. 

I know it’s overwhelming…sorry if I made it worse. :/ I would really reccomend checking out some wedding books at your local library! They can be super helpful, too.  Also just looking around at wedding blogs and websites can be great for inspiration, too. πŸ™‚

Good luck and congrats!

Post # 5
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4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Patsy23:  Get a wedding planner binder or book, they’re SO much more helpful than wedding magazines.

Post # 8
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1112 posts
Bumble bee

@Patsy23:  Awesome!

We didn’t have an established budget until after we had been planning for about a month. It was a bit stressful, but like you, SO many people are helping us out so the budget isn’t the biggest worry. Just don’t make any HUGE purchases or deposits before you know they will fit in your futute budget. Haha.

I wanted a small wedding to start with, but that ended up being harder than we thought it was goint to be. Like you, I only wanted people that *I* knew and *I* loved to be there. But alas, FH and his family…and my family…all had people they thought should be there. It isn’t a huge deal for us, because it works with our venue and budget now. But be willing to compromise if need be. πŸ™‚

If you ever want any more advice feel free to PM me! Sounds like we are kind of in the same boat. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Patsy23:  My advice:  set budget, chose venue, set date, book major vendors.

Post # 11
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4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Patsy23:  Def start with the budget, Fiance and you need to sit down and talk this through and also exactly what you want as a Wedding, you know, like big, small, medium, low key, glamorous, etc and of course set the date and try to find places that accommadate your budget, then everything else just comes with it, chose a bridal party after you know your budget cause remember that they gifts too and those things add up…GL and Congratulations!

Post # 12
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4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Patsy23:  LOL, That could be.  If you’re newly engaged let it all sink in and have fun with it until you’re ready to get down to planning!  Maybe hanging around the Bee will be a way to get you in the mood πŸ™‚

What book/binder are you working with?  I found “The Brides Essential Wedding Planner” by Amy Nebbens to be overwhelming, lots of the things mentioned didn’t apply to me (flower girls, marriage counseling, etc.) and it was more hassle than it was worth.

Post # 13
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8592 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would figure out budget, then guest list, then venue. It’s kind of hard to really get anything else set in stone until you have a definitive place and time.

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