(Closed) Help me! I can’t make a decision!!

posted 11 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m so jealous — that’s going to be a gorgeous wedding!  I would love a fall wedding (but I come from a family of teachers, so no go).

I know I should probably say that it’s your day, do whacha wanna do.  But, I think with the barn setting in the fall, you really should stick with fall colors.  It will help to emphasize the natural beauty of the setting.  You may be able to stick closely to the colors you’ve selected — maybe even just with substituting a deep burgandy color for the pink?  and maybe go with deeper shades of yellow and cream–   You just can’t argue with foliage season, though.  Work that fall color palette!

Post # 4
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

First of all, take a deep breath and ohhmmm….exhale.

Secondly, you are NOT lame because you are conflicted about deciding your color palette. This is a decision that affects the rest of your wedding vision.  Many brides (including me) have agonized over their color palette!

Thirdly, I personally think your idea of greens, yellows, creams and whites sounds lovely. That is a classic combination that really can be tailored to any season. Just because you are getting married smack dab in the middle of autumn doesnt mean you are relegated to using red, oranges, yellows and browns. And honestly, as involved as you are with your color palette, I am sure not one guest at your wedding is going to say, "Wow…this wedding certainly was pretty to look at but it is a shame it didn’t match the season." A wedding isn’t about a color palette. It about what makes you and your soon-to-be husband happy. NOBODY will think it looks bad or inappropriate. Just because your mother doesn’t like it means YOU shouldn’t like the colors you want.

I too have a difficult…umm…eccentric mother who has tender feelings too. The best way I handle her is to butter her up and then re-direct the focus. "You know mom, I really appreciate you buying this and I see where you are coming from. I’d like to incorporate this into the reception somehow but I think I’d like to go with another color. Do you think we can go look for these together?"

I will say that my mom DOESN’T like my fuchsia/light pink/spring green palette all that much but respects that I do. I suggest you remain strong when you do finally make a decision and stick with it. Flatter and then redirect. That is the best way to deal with a meddling but well-meaning mother.  =)

 PS: Make sure your mom keeps the receipts for all the stuff she keeps buying so you can take it all back. Together.

Post # 5
153 posts
Blushing bee

I love that color scheme and think that the greens will look great in a barn setting!  Stick to what YOU like and don’t worry about what anyone else says.  On your wedding day your mother will not even notice that the flowers are not her preferred color as she will be in awe of how beautiful everything looks.  Plus you will be the one who has the wedding album.   your opinion is the only one that counts (well i guess your FI’s too) 🙂  Good luck!

Post # 6
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I would suggest doing your greens, yellows, creams and whites – just leave the pink out.  Sounds beautiful!

Post # 7
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree w/ the previous 3 posters. Go for your palette: it sounds lovely. And you must, somehow, tell your mom to stop buying stuff that won’t work! It sounds like that’ll be the hardest part. I say stick to your guns and go with the pale green, cream, yellow.

If you do use blush pink, use it very sparingly. If you’re outdoors for any part of the day, you will have oranges and burgundies in the background.

Post # 8
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

you can definitely use those colors.  I would say, since you already have the green dresses, keep the flowers to whites, yellows, and some pale rust/orange colors rather than the pink….You can use varying shades of yellows/golds with everything else.  Look at the colors of the fall foliage. They turn yellow first!  I do think the pink will throw everything off though.  But there is some flower that I always see in wedding mags, that comes in every color.  a pale orange/rust almost peach could be gorgeous!  I just cant remember what it is!

Post # 12
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Glad I could help.

Now if you could only come over and address all my invitations for me, haha 

Post # 13
5 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

I am also getting married in October and I struggled with my color palette at the beginning too.  However, I decided it was more important to go with the colors I like (which happen to be spring colors) than to choose fall colors.  Of course I’m in Southern California where we don’t really have seasons and weather changes so it’s not as big of a deal, but still…you should go with what you like.  In the pictures you won’t know what season it is, and the pictures are all you’ll be left with in the end anyway.  The green and white palette jeeyol suggested is a beautiful compromise and it’s the way I’m going as well.  Bright green has a spring feel without totally contradicting the colors of fall.  Here’s my centerpiece inspiration if you need any more ideas.  Good luck!

Jessica and Tony’s reception featured towering, formal centerpieces filled with green and white flowers, which sat atop tables dressed in floor-length linens.

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