Post # 1
My fiance and I believe in very traditional weddings. We want a small get-together with friends and family, but we cannot afford a whole lot. I plan to do a lot of the decorating and such myself.
Ladies. . . I don’t even know where to begin other than a list of family/friends to send invitations to! And what on Earth are save-the-dates for? Are they for everyone in your family and friends to awknowledge that a marriage is about to take place, or should I only send these to people who will be recieving invitations?
Sooo, I know I want wedding favors for my guests, I know I want to do decorations mostly by myself (like centerpieces and all) and I want food there, I’d like pictures taken, I know I need to fgure out honeymoon stuff and hair/nails, wedding cake. ARGH! Is there someone more experienced out there who can tell me the correct steps I should take in order to have successful, and wonderful wedding planning!?
Post # 3
I highly suggest ordering this binder, it will give you a great path to follow and has really good reviews and is FREE.
Post # 4
The best places to start are to decide on a budget and a date (or dates you’d like) as well a general number of guests.
Then go about booking your venue and other vendors who have to be there on the day (i.e. DJ, caterer, photographer, etc).
As far as Save the Dates go, those go out 6months or so before the wedding ONLY to those invited so they can “save the date” on their calendar and keep the date open for your wedding as well as make any travel plans they might need to make to attend the wedding.
Post # 5
Okay… save the dates you can do yourself. They are just to let everyone know you set your date and to save it on their calendar before you send out invites. Some people put their wedding website on it. I did mine myself and I spent about 25-40 dollars.
Engagement/ Wedding pictures if you know someone who takes nice photos offer to pay them a couple hundred. Look at my engagement pictures… a friend did them. You should def. do a sample shoot with them before hand.
Venue- we choose a venue that was a caterer and alcohol all in one which is usually cheaper. You could also have it somewhere cheaper and have someone make your food for you… like a family member.
Centerpieces- SOOO many ideas out there. Candles and such can be bought wholesale and so can flowers you just have to put it together yourself. Get a picture of what you want a price out per table.
After you price out the things you need Ex. Venue, caterer and such … than see how many people you can actually afford to feed. My limit was 100 but I know people who bend to make things work for 300. I also bought my invited from michaels with a coupon and only spent $30 and everyone loved them!
Too much to type but I did a lot myself! Feel free to inbox me!
Google… Save on crafts… there is a website called saveoncrafts.com(i don’t know if that is how you enter it) and I bought a lot of wedding stuff from them.
Also get a wedding planner book! Usually they have everything listed! Good luck! It’s fun!
Post # 6
I am in a similar situation as you. But i found out that i really liked it and have considered doing it as a career. Anyway, i started with a binder, that gave me a general idea of when i should have things doen by. Then I talked with people who were just married.. that gave me some ideas on what to skip… like the save the date cards.. they were an expense that i didnt have – instead i sent out invitations a month earlier than said.
I am in oceanside california so its not too far from you. I looked into like bridal shows and was able to figure out and plan my wedding almost entirely from that. It also gives you good deals. Let me know if i can help anymore.
Post # 7
Google has an all-inclusive online planner/document to download with nice spreadsheets for EVERY aspect of planning (and it’s free)
Here are the steps:
1. Pick the timeframe you want to get married in
2. Make a rough guest list because this will greatly influence your venue size and budget
3. Make your budget. Friday and Sunday are cheaper than Sat.
4. Look for venues; many of them have recommendations for caterers, photographers, etc. and ask other people you know who have gotten married about their vendor recommendations.
5. Subscribe to some bridal mags, or go to your local library and photocopy relevant pages on planning suggestions. 50% of those mags are ads for dresses, so they may or may not be useful.
Post # 8
I went to Barnes and Noble and got Weddings For Dummies. It has a lot of helpful info for people like us who don’t know where to start or in what order you need to plan things!
Post # 9
I was beyond lost when starting to plan our wedding. I would start by picking a date, form a guest list then go from there. The date and guest list will help you narrow down your ceremony and reception options. Once your ceremony and reception venue is booked the fun begins! I’m more than happen to help you out if you’d like, my wedding was DIY and I only spent about $5,000. PM me if you’d like 🙂