Post # 1
Until recently we had 120 confirmed guests.
1 person from the wedding party broke up with the named +1, who will not attend. So we are at 119.
Another person from the wedding party wants to know if he can bring a different date. This person had a non-named +1 to begin with, but he was very cagey and secretive about who it was, we had to corner him to get a name. I know the guest who dropped out and I also know the different guest, neither were invited because we aren’t close.
He texted me and asked if he can bring this other guest instead.
If I tell him no then we would have room for 2 last minute additions
Or I can tell him no and we can have 118 guests
Or I can ask him if he even asked the 2nd guest yet (since he may not have thought it out fully – or if he already did ask her it puts me in a weird position to say no)
Gosh I am confused!
Post # 3
I would ask if he’s asked the second one yet. If he has not, tell him no. If he has, I would just let him bring her since he already had a +1 to begin with.
Post # 5
Do you have two people in mind to ask? Do you care if they know they were on the “b-list?”
TBH I think you should let him bring someone else. He got a general +1 so I think he should be able to change it.
Post # 6
@MrsBeck: @vorpalette: @TaurianDoll:
Yes he did already invite the second date.
Post # 7
I would think if the second guest was offered an open +1 he could bring whoever he wants. If his guest was named, it would be different.
Post # 8
Have you already paid for your final count? We weren’t allowed to change our count two weeks out, so we just filled in our last minute cancellations to keep food from being wasted. One friend brought her roommate! So, if you’ve already been locked into the 120 count, I would tell him to bring the second date.
Post # 9
@LucyLaLa: Yeah, I’d just let him bring her, then.
Post # 10
@LucyLaLa: well at least he’s asking. give him credit for that and let him bring the date.
we had one switch-out situation. my coworker’s husband double booked himself and while she was brow-beating him at the dinner table with friends, her best friend piped up and said “i’ll go in his place, ya know, if it’s cool with the bride.” coworkers asked me and i told her as long as she doesn’t mind grabbing his placecard, then that’s fine. the seat is paid for anyway.
Post # 11
Yea he’s my buddy and he doesn’t mean to drive me crazy. And he did ask. Our reception venue needs all the names of guests at the security desk, though.
@TaurianDoll: That’s reasonable. So is this. It’s really other things stressing me out, not this.
Post # 12
@MrsBeck: Thanks, I even used your wording.
@Leprechaun: Trying to find out today…