Post # 1
Hey all! We get to book our venue on Monday, but having cross-referenced with our beloved photographer and the only lodging near the venue, we are left with only four weekends in the entirety of Fall 2019.
Our first choice is October 5th, but other choices (and their foreseen issues) are:
Hotter weather (mid 80s), close to start of school
Labor Day weekend, hotter weather (low 80s), close to start of school
Weekend after Labor Day (NOT Labor Day weekend), low 80s
Our guests range in professions, though are mostly retired or self-employed. Some close family are professors and teachers. The invited families have kids ranging in ages 6 – 19, but have pulled the kids out of school for weddings many times before. Our immediate family is near the venue, but 90% of the guest list will need to travel (which would be true no matter where we had it).
Venue is in the mountains of Northern California, so weather will likely be mild for all of these dates. Same rain risk as any Fall wedding.
Any advice is very welcome! We don’t want to open it to family because it seems like a too-many-cooks-in-the-kitchen situation.
Post # 2
Have you talked to your VIPs about the dates? Honestly, they aren’t different enough for it to really matter but you might want to ask parents, siblings, wedding party member, and anyone else you would be devestated if they couldn’t make it if they have any conflicts.
Post # 3
Really, it’s just what is important to you. PP is right. These are close enough that I don’t see one necessarily being better than the other. I know it may sound goofy, but have you thought about which sounds nicer, or which you think might make a lovelier anniversary date? I took that into account when choosing my own. (Weirdo, I know!) Think about which one sounds more appealing to you, and go with that. 😉
Post # 4
I’d avoid Labor Day weekend as travel/hotel costs tend to be higher for any out of town guests. Plus, it seems a lot of people have annual family reunion/Labor Day weekend plans?
I would go for the date most likely to have better weather.
Post # 5
In addition to what PP mentioned about labor day weekend, you might want to check on the school schedules of the people you know who are teachers/professors/have kids. A lot of schools start up right after labor day, and personally as someone in academia, it’s really annoying to have to travel for a wedding during the first week or two, or the weekend right before, the start of the semester. For my schedule at least, August 24 before the start of classes, or October a little bit into the semester once the craziness has settled down, is generally preferable. That said, I’m sure your nearest and dearest will travel regardless – just something to consider since you mention those professions specifically.
Also, in NorCal, especially at high elevation, I wouldn’t be concerned about it being too hot. If anything I’d worry about it being too cool in the evenings.