Date Dilemma, Make it meaningful or make it convenient?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What wedding date should I choose?
    April 25, 2015 (Saturday, Lucky Month) : (9 votes)
    16 %
    May, 10 2015 (5.10.15, Sunday and Mothers Day) : (3 votes)
    5 %
    May, 15 2015 (Saturday, Avoids holidays) : (17 votes)
    30 %
    May, 30 2015 (Saturday, Avoids holidays, More green outside) : (27 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted April 25th, but I’m biased. That will be the day after my second dating anniversary with DBF, and where I live, May is usually a little hotter than April. Then again, you live significantly north of me and the dates are pretty close, so it might not be a problem.

    Post # 4
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If there are cultural differences here, I do apologize.  I just do not believe in luck (or unlucky things).  That would play no part in this for me but I know this is very important in Chinese culture.

    In my circle of friends and in my family it would be very unwise to choose Mother’s Day.  You would get a LOT of declines.  A lot!


    Post # 5
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    I’m with PP, I don’t really put any stock in lucky/unlucky things, and I’ve actually never heard that poem that you quoted!

    I would not pick Mother’s Day. Unless you would like to have a very small wedding. 

    I would pick one of the later days in May. 

    But honestly, this will all come down to when your venue is available. We changed our date (well, the IDEA of our date) twice to get the venue we wanted.


    Post # 6
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Also, have you asked your VIP’s (family and friends that you feel you must have at your wedding, your non-negotiables) what their availability is during that time?

    Post # 7
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    If you have any guests who are college students or academics, the first 3 dates are usually hectic end-of-semester dates. Just another factor to think about in case it applies to you.

    Post # 8
    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would say not Mother’s Day, but all other dates are fine

    Post # 9
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I voted for mother’s day, but that’s personal bias- I’d love to have a very small, meaningful wedding! So that may be either a pro or a con for you 🙂 I also love the date, and the symbolism.

    That said, this is coming from the girl who is having a destination wedding five days before Christmas (lots of bees would be horrified by that, too, I’m sure!!)

    Post # 10
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @Ozian:  +1. May 30th always fell right in the middle of finals week or graduation at my college.

    Post # 11
    11355 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I would choose May 30 or May 15. I would NOT get married on Mother’s Day, because that really could affect the number of people who could attend.  Many people may not value Mother’s Day so highly for themselves,  but they may feel compelled to be there for their own mothers on that day.

    Post # 12
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I voted April 25th, but I’m totally biased because I’m having an April 2015 wedding too!

    I like the dates to be interesting, so 5/10/15 and 5/15/15 are pretty awesome in my book, but I think 5/30 might be the best date for you. Avoids conflicts and it will be nice and green out!

    Post # 13
    8394 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t get married on mother’s day – you might have to spend your anniversary with your mom….

    I think late  May would be better weather wise.



    Post # 14
    1343 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @ImperialRed:  Personally, I think you are over thinking the date. I would avoid April 1st due to the death, but the whole month? It won’t over shadow it. As for Mother’s day, me personally, I would avoid it because it’s mother’s day in general. Also, my SO, my BFF and my mom all have “mother’s day birthdays” (They are all literally back to back to back and one of their birthdays always falls on mother’s day).

    I think if later down the line you have kids, would you want mother’s day and your anniversary to be around the same time (which is the reason I see an issue for both the 10th and the 15th).

    The 30th can fall around memorial day, which I see as an issue if you want to go away for your anniversary. That being said, I personally would pick either the May 30 or april 25.

    Post # 15
    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would avoid Mother’s Day. I picked May 30th when there will be more green.

    Don’t over-think it – your wedding date will BECOME symbolic as soon as you choose it, even if it was just a random day before!

    Post # 16
    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

    Never heard of that poem before. “Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day.” ?? What rubbish.

    I voted for 15.5.15 as it’s a cool and easily-remembered number and the 15th combines the 10(years)+5(engaged years).

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