(Closed) Help me pick a wedding ring!

• cassclaw
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

The SO and I have decided to buy each other’s wedding bands for Christmas this year, and I’m trying to decide which one I want. Here’s the engagement ring I’ll be wearing it with:

A more close-up picture can be found here. It’s 10k white gold with blue and white sapphires. You can’t see it from the pictures, but it’s on a cathedral-type setting so the stones sit fairly high up off my finger. The top side where the stones are widens toward the center, but the part of the ring that actually touches my finger is the same width throughout – I would guess about 1.5 – 2 mm or so.

Here are the rings I’m considering:

Option #1:

14k White Gold Comfort Fit Milgrain

This one would match the wedding band I’ll be getting for him. Pros: I like the idea of having matching bands, I like milgrain, it’s simple, it’s not very expensive, I like the width (3mm). Cons: No sparkle, not sure it’ll go very well with my engagement ring.

Option 2:

14K White Gold Natural White Sapphire

Here’s another shot of it:

Pros: White sapphires, white gold, not too expensive, SPARKLY, 3mm width. Cons: The prong settings don’t look too high, but I’m still afraid it wouldn’t sit/look right with my engagement ring. Also, it wouldn’t match my FI’s ring and it isn’t listed as being “comfort fit”. (Then again, neither is my engagement ring and it’s perfectly comfortable.)

Option 3:

10k White Gold Blue and White Sapphire

Pros: White gold, Sapphires, Channel-set, presumably low profile (unfortunately there’s only one picture on the website). Cons: Most expensive option, only 10k gold, again doesn’t match FI’s, no width listed, not sure if the blue would be too overpowering.

What do you think? Which one would look the best with my engagement ring? Right now I’m leaning toward option 2, but I’d like to get some of your opinions before deciding.

• cassclaw
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

Found another one! We’re going to call this Option 5:

10k White Gold White Sapphire Band

Pros: White gold, white sapphires, milgrain, “heart shaped detail cut into shank”, channel set. Cons: MOST expensive, not sure what the profile looks like, 10k gold

• cassclaw
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

@pineapplez17:  I would love to try them all on, but one is online at sarraf.com, option 2 is an Etsy ring, and option 5 is an online exclusive from Zales. I might be able to try on option 3 at Kay, but the last time I was there I got passed from sales lady to sales lady and they kept trying to push me to try on diamond rings, which I don’t want. I might have to try again when it isn’t as busy, and bring pictures of the rings I like.

• cassclaw
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

Okay. I think I’ve narrowed it down to just two choices now. Of the fancier rings, the blue and white one is my favorite.

It’s channel set like my engagement ring, would most likely sit flush with the e-ring, and I think it would look really nice with it. Plus I’m pretty sure I could try it on at the store, assuming I want to deal with the people at my local Kay again. It’s a little more than I wanted my FI to have to buy, given that he spent quite a lot (for us) on my e-ring, but it’s still less than $300.

BUT. Part of me wonders if it wouldn’t be better to just stick with the plainer band:

It’s less money for higher quality gold, would probably look just fine with my e-ring, and it would match my FI’s band. And if I ever wanted/needed to wear just the band without the e-ring, I feel like this one looks more like a traditional “wedding ring”.

Gah! I’m so terrible at decision making! Should I go for the plainer, more economical 14k milgrain and ask for the blue and white sapphire ring as like a 5-year anniversary present? Would I regret going for the more colorful ring and wish I had something simpler/more traditional, or vice versa?

• cassclaw
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

I’ve given it a lot of thought today, and I think I’m going to go with the milgrain band. I feel like a simpler wedding band is more “classic” and would stand the test of time better (not knocking those of you with flashier wedding bands though, to each her own). Also, my engagement ring has plenty of sparkle on its own. And I think the milgrain edging would be enough detail for the wedding band not to get completely lost beside the e-ring, while providing some decoration for those times when I’ll need/choose to wear the wedding band by itself. In addition, I really do like the idea of my FI and I having matching bands (though his will be wider). And if in the future I do decide I want a band with sapphires, I can always ask for one as an anniversary gift. 😉

Thanks to everyone for your input!