(Closed) Help Me Pick My Dress!!!! (poll)

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Which dress would you get?
    Dress 1 : (35 votes)
    78 %
    Dress 2 : (10 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 2
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    1341 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    It’s about how you feel, not how others feel. If dress one makes you feel so special, pretty and “makes you cry,” get it. 

    Post # 3
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    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Dress #1 makes you feel better than dress 2, sounds like!

    Post # 5
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    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I’m going to go against the grain here and say Dress 2. Feelings fluctuate, they come and go and pass in a moment. Your style reflects who you are and will be happy to look back in pictures forever. You know your style, you planned a vision of yourself based on your style. I feel like the majority of dress regret posts on the bee are the result of a faded feeling or conversely a new feeling rather than sticking with what the bee wanted in the first place. Maybe Dress 2 isn’t EXACTLY the dress for you — less cleavage might be found in a similar style with slightly different details. I think you should stick to your vision and maybe try on a few more dresses in this type. Rather than picking between two that you’re not 100% sure on, you may be able to find the one that you have no doubts about if you follow what you like about them. Good luck!

    Post # 6
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    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    One. it has your heart + it’s comfortable and you won’t be stressing about your wieight + your 4 year old has a great place to hide ( very important to a 4 yrold!)

    Post # 7
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    285 posts
    Helper bee

    Advice on what you feel, get the dress you want which sounds like dress 1.  

    My opinion though is pick dress 2 because …

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    wonderlily:  <- what she said.

    You basically already said you think 90% of people would pick dress 2 as most people say that one is stunning and not so much dress 1.  90% vs 10% is a big difference.  If you said 50% and 50% that’s another matter.

    I don’t have kids but it seems odd to make a style decision based partially on because your 4 year old wants to hide under it.  It is very cute that Max loves it but you are not a tent.  If he wants a tent, perhaps a tent or a fort in the living room or a family camping trip.  Camping is super fun!

    Post # 8
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    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I did a picture poll on this site and still picked the one that only like 15% of people liked. Imagine yourself in a dressing room with both of them, and all you have to do is put on the one you would most like to see yourself in the mirror in. Imagine that’s all you had to do, and that nobody else is going to see you in it. Pick that one. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    mrsbrizz2017:  did you try on the DB dress by yourself, and did you still feel the same way about it?

    Post # 11
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    285 posts
    Helper bee

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    mrsbrizz2017:  Glad to hear that!  Maybe I’ve watched too many episodes of SYTTD where the mom picks the dress the kids like to make them happy.  Anyway, it’s super cute that whatever your favorite is will be his favorite!

    Post # 12
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    2842 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If it helps, I think there are some factors you’ve listed that are relevant and some that aren’t:

    Most relevant (no particular order):

    * How the dress makes you feel

    * Comfort 

    * How flattering the dress is.

    * Whether it represents your style and personality

    * Whether you can afford it.

     

    Less relevant:

    * What your Fiance thinks – it’s somewhat important, but he’s not the one wearing it

    * What’s in style – all dresses will date eventually. Even the second dress is obviously a style from the 2010s In My Humble Opinion, especially in blush.

    * Cleavage – probably fixeable

    * Whether it fits your vision. Nice – but ideas can change once you try the dress on.

    * Your son’s opinions – nice, but he’ll love you anyway.

     

    Not relevant:

    * What people outside your immediate family think.

    * What random strangers think.

    * What you feel you “should” wear.

    * What’s “age appropriate” – if the dress is “you”, there’s no such thing. 

    Post # 14
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    3310 posts
    Sugar bee

    #1 sounds like your dress! When your Fiance sees YOU in a dress that you feel amazeballs in he will forget ALLLL about the element he ‘doesn’t like’!!!!! πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
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    2842 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    mrsbrizz2017:  I hope it works! At least to know what your real feelings are. 

    The issue may be that neither dress ticks all the boxes for you – and there won’t be one that does that while you’re stuck between comfort (ruched drop-waist ballgown) and sexiness/FI’s preferences (mermaid).

    So perhaps an idea compromise would be a ruched mermaid – that way you’ve got the mermaid dress your Fiance likes with the slimming/flattering feature of the ruching. Provided it’s not fitted all the way to the knee it should still be relatively comfortable.

    Fortunately there are quite a lot of “fun” blush ruched mermaids out at the moment:

    Allure

    Mori Lee

    Essense

    Maggie Sottero

    Sottero & Midgely

     

     

     

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