Help me please!!!!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
5275 posts
Bee Keeper

Munoz1234:  No, you don’t suck at all. 7 months is plenty of time between weddings, and any accusations of thunder stealing will sound silly on your sister’s part. 

Post # 3
1855 posts
Buzzing bee

No you do not suck! It’s not like you are planning your wedding the same month as her, like you said it’s 7 months apart. 

There will always be someone who isn’t happy with the timing of your wedding. Whether it’s your SIL because it’s the same year as hers, your FMIL because great aunt Jane can’t make it that date or your friend from college because they have a mid term that week. You have to do what is right for you and your FI and the future you want together. 

If she honestly thinks your wedding will steal her thunder when it’s 7 months from hers she is crazy. 

Post # 4
7730 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Munoz1234:  We got married in the Catholic Church, and we did Pre-Cana, but were only engaged 4 months, so there must be another option, I think we must have gone for a whole weekend or something, but it was 32 yrs. ago this November, so I don’t remember.   And, nope, you do not suck and your SIL doesn’t get a wedding year.  We got married 6 months after my younger brother.  

Post # 5
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Munoz1234:  Plenty of time between weddings!!! Your sister doesn’t get to claim 2015. She will get over her jealousy hopefully once her wedding date gets closer.

Post # 7
7730 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Munoz1234  I’m sure that we must have had these rules too.  I think it was that you had to have Pre-Cana within the 6 months before the wedding.  I know we scrambled somehow and got it done.  From what I can remember, I think we went to one in our parish and in another parish in the diocese.  Maybe you could ask other Catholics on the religious boards.  I just know we did it because my husband’s mother had terminal cancer-but I know we didn’t get any exception to the rule.  

Post # 9
1410 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t suck, she doesn’t get to have a whole year.  Enjoy your planning!

Post # 10
1329 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

Munoz1234:  She doesn’t get to lay claim to a whole year.  Pick the time that works for you, and any whining she does will make her sound silly and immature.

Post # 11
1394 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Plenty of time in between the two weddings.  I do have a question though.  Are either parents contributing towards either wedding?   If so, are they the same parents (ex: SIL your brother’s fiance), contributing and can they afford both weddings? 

Post # 12
7871 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

7 months is loads of time between weddings. If she has a problem with that, she has a screw loose.

Post # 14
13 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015


It is not your fault that your wedding was moved. She does not have to entitle 2015 as her year. Just choose a date and time that works best for you. In addition, you are not also asking anything grand from her family, so that’s a proof that you don’t want to outshine her wedding. If she thinks that way, then she’s pretty much immature. Just take it easy and have fun planning as it will be an important day for you, finally tying the knot with the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. 

Post # 15
121 posts
Blushing bee

Munoz1234:  my cousin is getting married one month before me, I don’t care one bit 🙂 

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