Post # 1
Oh bees I am so scared right now. I have a generalised anxiety disorder and now that the wedding is 10 days away I am finding myself completely debilitated by fear. My anxiety is generally health related, when I feel stressed I have all kinds of physical symptoms, so the original anxiety thn morphs into something I’m unable to cope with because I begin to fear for my life and health. So what was originally stress then turns to me thinking that I have to panic and fight for my life.
I’ve been seeing a counsellor for a very long time to deal with this and I feel like I’ve make little progress in spite of having one of the best counsellors. I’ve been seeing my current counsellor for a little over a year.
In the last month these are the issues I’ve been dealing with and now its gotten me to a really unhealthy mental state;
My sister is 8.5 months pregnant she is my Maid/Matron of Honor and could deliver before the wedding day. Her gown doesn’t fit so will needs major alterations.
My only bridesmaid is going through multiple medical tests, brain scans, ultra sounds and a couple of other things. I’m sick to my stomach with worry about her and know that she is so stressed at the moment. I’m really trying to be extra supportive but I’m coping with my own anxiety.
I’ve been also seeing a chiropractor for lower back issues which has left me with a pinched nerve and various other unnerving sensations throughout my body. He said the sensations are my nerves firing up again. What can I do but believe him, but my anxiety is causing me to believe I have MS or some other disease I don’t think I can cope with.
The best man at the wedding is still in another state and will only make it back a day or two prior. He is also our godfather for the wedding ceremony. He and his wife (our godmother) are going through a seperation where they are on and off again. I can’t count the amount of times she’s cancelled coming to the wedding. At ths stage we don’t know for sure if the best man will come to the wedding either.
I had to get my Fiance to pull the car over yesterday while I paced at the front of someones yard to calm myself down. With this going on I’m still working full time.
I really need your words of wisdom right now and any similar stories to help me settle my nerves. Thank you bees.
Post # 3
My best words of wisdom are just: No matter what goes wrong at the wedding (and nothing might!), at the end of the day you’re marrying the person you love. Focus on that and the rest will fall into place.
Post # 4
Have you thought about meds for the situational stresses in your life? I have the same as you and when I get stressed out I think the same things, I thought I had ms too haha! Anxiety can make your body feel all sorts of things! Tingles, pain, palpitations, restlessness, etc. etc. google anxiety symtoms. There are tons! What helped me go through those extra stress times in my life are anti anxiety meds, xanax, Zoloft, ettc. Then when I feel better and don’t have the stress as bad In my life, I’m able to come off of the meds and control my anxiety better. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and break the anxiety cycle with meds. Anxiety sucks. And thinking crazy sucks more. And not sleeping makes your anxiety worse so it’s a horrible cycle. I would ask your doc. And ser what she saids. Good luck!
Post # 6
This is what I tell my medical students during this crazy time of interviewing for residency:
give yourself 30 minutes a day to freak out. It can be any time, but a set 30 minutes. Use that time to make pros/cons lists, alternate plans, or check and doublecheck things. If you find yourself worrying or panicking during the day, stop yourself and set the thought aside until your scheduled freak out break. If you take notes or make lists, you will find yourself feeling better about things because of the frequency in which you revisit the same issues. In your case, use that time to text or call and check on your sister or friends.
Hope that helps!
Post # 7
Girl I feel for you,, anxiety is so horrible and sometimes, even though you know its the anxiety, you cant get away from it.
I agree with Znowbird, meds definately help sometimes, especially during high stress times..just to take the edge off,,
You are coming up to the most important day of your life,, yes you have worries with you family but dont worry about what you cant change,,
all the best for a beautiful happy day,,
Post # 8
@smileyme: Take a deep breath, you will get through this. Everything you have mentioned, although worrying and emotional, there is nothing you can do about them. All the worry in the world wont take away anyone’s illness or pain. Dont spend so much time in the future that it steals from your present.
I used to have GAD and DH struggles with paniiic attacks. You are taking the best first step with therapy. But sometimes you need additional help. I would talk to your doc about getting some situational anxiety meds like Xanac for you your wedding day (but do a test run before so you know how you react)
My psyDoc also recommended the supplement GABA. I took 750-1500mg every night for several months-1year. Really took the edge off. DH takes GABA calm when he feels himself start to get anxious. But for me it wasnt enough.