Post # 1
I despertly need everyone & anyones help. My Fiance’ and I are young, and do not have great jobs. The weeding ended up costing more than i thought. ( it was supposed to be small, but our families have blown it up into this big thing. ) Orignally i was supposed to have MAX 60 people, but now I have like 75… Long story straight, we BARELY have enough money for our wedding. So then no honeymoon money at all…. Ive tried everything. I cut back on the expenses. Ive done anything. I looked into bed & breakfast hotels, but my FI and i dont think thats best for us. I really wanted to go away, I know we could stay local, but I really dont want to. at all. I need help. Any idea how to make a little extra cash? I’m seriously so upset I cant handle the stress. No one seems to be helping, and my FI doesnt understand why I’m so upset. PLEASE HELP.
Post # 3
What do you want for your ideal honeymoon?
We were strapped for cash planning the wedding and had to nix the grand honeymoon. We did a modified mini-moon and went up the coast and stopped along the way. Honestly – I felt like it was a waste of money (afterwards) and would have been happier with some time off locally.
I defintely understand wanting to take a honeymoon, but if there is no money – there’s no money.
I know some people do a honeymoon registry and you might get some cash as gifts for the wedding (but at that point, you’d be gambling on it – since the trip would need to be planned). Or another idea is to plan a honeymoon for a few weeks/months after the wedding and save up for it that way.
ETA: are you feeling extra stressed out because you want your FI to do more to plan?
Post # 4
A friend of mine has been saving since last June when she got married- they will be going on their honeymoon this June. More and more couples are waiting to save for their honeymoons. It’s not a big deal if u can’t go immediately, so don’t stress over money.
Post # 5
I don’t really understand what you want us to say here… If there’s no money, there’s no money. Honestly, a honeymoon is not a necessity, but neither is a wedding of any size really. What about camping? You could borrow a tent from some friends and go to a beautiful public park and camp. You could take a road trip and sleep in your car or something? Idk.
As for extra cash, you could babysit someone’s kids on the side, maybe have a garage sale or yard sale, go around and see if anyone will hire you to clean their house or do yardwork, sell plasma, walk dogs, wash cars, house sit, sell stuff on ebay, etc.
Post # 6
A lot of people put off their honeymoon until they can save up. Or they don’t get married until they are financially stable enough to afford both. Or, they are firm in their boundaries with family members trying to add to the guest list. If they want extra people invited, they have to pay for that. Otherwise, you call the shots!
Post # 7
@oracle: We are doing a road trip to a wedding we are attending out west and camping along the way. With my son.
I don’t think there is anything that defines a honeymoon, so do what you can and enjoy it fully. My parents went fishing at a nearby lake (with both sets of parents and my dad’s sister and her husband!) and they had to be back to work the next day (my dad was a hired man on a farm at the time). They have a blast looking at the pictures now! They just went to a honeymoon destination for the first time last year — for their 45th anniversary.
You can make it a special time within your budget because the most important part is that it is the two of you doing whatever as husband and wife.
Post # 8
@oracle: My ideal honeymoon? I’m not even sure. I despertly wanted to go to disney world. But that is WAY out of the budget. But since that is out, I have no clue. Of course I want the FI to do more. But he works 15hr days, and works afternoons. So he helps when he can, witch isnt much.
Post # 9
my suggestion is to not put off the honeymoon and at a MINIMUM spend a weekend away somewhere. It doesn’t have to be fancy just a nice escape from reality for a weekend. I base this suggestion off my parents. When they got married they were very poor. At the wedding they recieved a decent amount of cash, definitely enough to have a small honeymoon. BUT they put it off because they thought that they needed to use the money for other things. They didn’t end up having their honeymoon until their 15th wedding anniversary. They are CONSTANTLY reminding me that that was the ONE thing they regretted.
Post # 10
as a PP mentioned try a honeymoon registery! plus you probably will recieve some monatery gifts at the wedding, maybe sell some things you dont normally use good luck!
Post # 11
Sorry hun that you’re going though this. We’re in the same boat with the honeymoon thing. We may or may not have the money to do so, plus I’ll just be finishing up my graduate school.
So we are thinking of postponing the honeymoon a few months or even for a 1 year anniversary. In the meantime because we aren’t having the nice honeymoon vacation, we will be staying at a nice local hotel that has a “special package” for the evening. I agree with the other bees, if there is no money, then it’s really out of your hands, hun!
Post # 12
Yah, I’m not sure how we can help either…
I think that you should do the responsible thing and not go on a honeymoon. We all want a lot of things we can’t have, and sacrifice things because of it. A honeymoon certainly isn’t a necessity. And nowadays, people are waiting 6 months or more to take a honeymoon, just to have a wedding.
And there are a lot of people who can’t even afford the wedding.
Post # 13
I agree about saving and going a few months or a year later. My advice to would be finding a hotel with a nice pool and take a few days for yourself. Again try to book in advance or put a fare alert on the travel sites.
Post # 14
Have you considered a “stay-moon?” My friend did this with her husband and they had some adorable pictures from movie nights, etc. They shut off their phones, locked their doors, and went “away.” Cute!
Post # 15
@out4answers: Hey there,
I freelance a lot and have a small staffing biz so if I don’t find jbos t owork on, idon’t get paid. So, ifeel you on the no money thing, as I have blown up the wedding budget and I am now wondering if we too, can even afford a honeymoon.
I want to go to Paris, and idon’t think that is happening. In terms of jobs, you could temp your skills out, babysit, sell crafts on Etsy, get a second job. Or, you could both save for your one year anniversary (probably what we will be doing) and have a Disney Jar.
But, Disney really isn’t expensive right now, either…I saw a commercial the other day that around 70 bucks pp you can stay for a week (for a family of four)
Look into the specials, you just never know!
Post # 16
@oracle: If I were you, I’d spend one night in a local hotel and then plan a honeymoon for a couple months after the wedding. since I’m a teacher and got married in Feb, we waited until July to honeymoon and it was fantastic having a trip to look forward to.