Post # 1
In NYC, the marriage license application has a place to enter what your post-marriage surname will be. The future surname is noted on the marriage certificate. At the time we applied for the marriage license I thought I wanted to use both my last name and my husband’s. So, our marriage certificate lists my post-wedding surname as mylast-hislast. However, after we were married (3 months ago) I decided that I just want to use his last name. The only thing I’ve changed officially so far is my Social Security card. Even though the Marriage Certificate showed that my post-marriage name would be Mylast-Hislast, they easily reissued my SS card with just Hislast.
I’m headed to the NYC DMV next, and I’ve heard scary stories about them being sticklers and difficult with name changes. Do you think they’ll allow me to make the name change to just “Hislast” even though my marriage certificate has my post-wedding surname as “Myname-Hisname”? Any advice about what to bring with me to the DMV to be sure that I get the name I want on my license?
Post # 3
Oh gosh I still have to do this after I get my new social security card!! My only experience with the NYC DMV was when I had to get a NY license. You can only do this at the 34th street location which was super crowded (I went during the day on a weekday.. hooray for welfare..) I waited in line for 2 hours to get my picture taken then another hour to speak to a person who could take down my info. It was a total nightmare.
I think in the city though you can visit any location to change your name, but let me know if I”m wrong.
Post # 4
I do know that in NY you can’t change your middle name to your maiden name without a court order (you can do this in most states just with your marriage license)… so maybe that is why you have heard that there are issues with name changes in NYC? I would think as long as you bring your new social security card they really can’t argue with you since YourFirst HisLast is in fact your legal name now. Good luck!
Post # 5
The problem is that I want my drivers license to have a different last name than what my marriage certificate lists as my new surname. i.e. Marriage Certificate lists ‘new surname’ as Mylast-Hislast, but I want my driver’s license (and everything else) to just have ‘Hislast’. My worry is that Mylast-Hislast is actually my new legal name and the DMV won’t allow me to list anything else? I guess that larger question is whether or not the ‘new surname’ portion of the marriage certificate in NYC determines one’s legal name.
Post # 6
I don’t know about NYC specifically, but I had a somewhat similar issue with getting the DMV to put my correct name on my license. I changed my name to MyFirst MyMiddle MyMaiden HisLast, and had this on my SS card without any problem at all. I went to the DMV, and the woman absolutely refused to put anything on my license besides MyFirst MI HisLast. This resulted in tears and lots of frustration. I called and according to Ohio Law, you can have either a MI from your birthname or your full maiden name. I got my first passport in the meantime and despite putting all four names on everything, they did the same thing, but when I sent it back for a correction, they fixed it without a problem. Some bees told me that the DMV is required to match the passport (not sure if this is true) but went back to the DMV, got the nicest woman ever, and explained what I wanted- she did it, no problem. If she hadn’t, I was going to try a different DMV.
Moral of the story: hope you get someone nice, be super polite, and if they won’t do what you want, you might try a different DMV. Good luck!
Post # 7
I would think that they would go off your new SSN card. I have heard of places not liking you doing different things like hypenating or adding a second middle name but never that they won’t change your name to the traditional, husband’s last name.
Post # 8
Just wanted to follow-up…
Went to the DMV with marriage license and new SS card in hand. They weren’t interested in the SS card and only looked at my marriage license. The DMV employee questioned why I only had my husband’s last name on my name change application when the marriage license had a hyphenated name. I started to give an explanation about changing our minds – she cut me off saying, “ok, fine” and went ahead using just my husbands name. My sense is that they’re comfortable making that type of name change and just went ahead with it.