Post # 1
My wedding is September of next year, and I was going over plans with my mom over the weekend. My current plan for invites is to send out my save-the-date’s around the beginning of next year, maybe January or February. Yet when I told this to my mom, her response was “Oh no, you need to send those out right now. People may not come if you wait until next year”. In her defense, all of our extended family lives out of state, and about 1/2 of our total guest list will be out-of-state guests. However, I do keep in touch with my out-of-state family, and many of them already know the date and know they will be invited. I also think that approx. 18 months in advance is too far in advance, and I doubt anybody will be booking flights this soon anyway.
So the big question: Is it too soon to send out save-the-dates? Or is my mom right about sending them out now?
Post # 3
My wedding is November 9th of this year. I am sending out my STD next month
Post # 4
I would wait until 1 year before your wedding. I sent mine out in January and my wedding is in July.
Post # 5
Way too far. I wouldn’t send them until at least September.
Post # 6
6-8 months is the expected timeframe for STDs, unless you have a holiday wedding date.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t send them out until maybe February/March 2014.
Post # 8
I think 6 months before the wedding is the best time to send out STD’s. If you do it too soon then people will forget, especially with the calendar change…it may not make it to the new one.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@bleusteel: One year maximum for mailing out STDs. We mailed out the STDs for our November 2013 in November 2012. Six months is typical but we sent them that early because we have people flying in from the UK and we wanted them to have plenty of time to save money for flights and hotels. You can’t book plane tickets more than a year in advance so any more than a year is too much.
Post # 10
Thanks, everyone! I’m going to stick with my original plan of sending STD’s early next year. 🙂
Post # 11
@bleusteel: While I agree that it’s too early. If half of your family has to travel, it may be best to send them out in sept/oct. this year. Unless you have told all the out of state people, it gives plenty of time to save and plan.
Post # 12
My wedding is this July, we sent ours out the first week of December. However… I meant to send them in July. So… yeah.
It’s not too early to notify, but it is too early to guarantee an invite to people. If your mom is really uncomfortable perhaps you could do 2 waves of the STDS, first wave family and non-negotiable invites only. And the second wave in January when you are a little closer to your wedding, to everyone else.
Even sending mine out 6 months before we’ve added 12 people to the guest list and I would probably delete another 12 based on our (not negative, but just absent) relationship over the past 7+ months. (But I won’t because since they got a STD they get an invite.)
Post # 13
@bleusteel: I agree. way too early.