(Closed) Help me settle a debate – when to send STD's

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it too soon to send out STD's to a September 2014 wedding?
    Yes : (32 votes)
    82 %
    No : (7 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    My wedding is November 9th of this year. I am sending out my STD next month

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would wait until 1 year before your wedding. I sent mine out in January and my wedding is in July.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Way too far. I wouldn’t send them until at least September.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    6-8 months is the expected timeframe for Save-The-Date Cards, unless you have a holiday wedding date.

    Post # 7
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    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t send them out until maybe February/March 2014.

     

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think 6 months before the wedding is the best time to send out STD’s.  If you do it too soon then people will forget, especially with the calendar change…it may not make it to the new one.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @bleusteel:  One year maximum for mailing out Save-The-Date Cards.  We mailed out the Save-The-Date Cards for our November 2013 in November 2012.  Six months is typical but we sent them that early because we have people flying in from the UK and we wanted them to have plenty of time to save money for flights and hotels.  You can’t book plane tickets more than a year in advance so any more than a year is too much.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @bleusteel:  While I agree that it’s too early. If half of your family has to travel, it may be best to send them out in sept/oct. this year. Unless you have told all the out of state people, it gives plenty of time to save and plan.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My wedding is this July, we sent ours out the first week of December. However… I meant to send them in July. So… yeah. 

    It’s not too early to notify, but it is too early to guarantee an invite to people. If your mom is really uncomfortable perhaps you could do 2 waves of the STDS, first wave family and non-negotiable invites only. And the second wave in January when you are a little closer to your wedding, to everyone else. 

    Even sending mine out 6 months before we’ve added 12 people to the guest list and I would probably delete another 12 based on our (not negative, but just absent) relationship over the past 7+ months. (But I won’t because since they got a STD they get an invite.)

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @bleusteel:  I agree. way too early.

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