Post # 1
OK here it is:
I’m planning on cleaning up the decor after my FI’s and I wedding. I of course will elicit all the help I can, but I’m not planning on just leaving while everyone else packs everything up. I mentioned this in conversation with my Maid/Matron of Honor which resulted in a long, fairly awesome and amusing, tirade about how crazy I was. She ultimately said absolutely no one does this, and I’m nuts to think otherwise. So, bees, I have $10 riding on this. Did you or do you plan to clean up all your decor after your wedding? She wanted me to stipulate this is a night of deal, the venue is not allowing me to come back the next day.
Feel free to comment, but please respond to the poll as well, so it will be easy for us to decipher the winner of this friendly wager.
Post # 2
Sorry to be a no… My number goal is for everything to be hassle free the day of (before and after the event). That’s sweet of you to be considerate, but the day is tiring enough for you two and it’s your special day. Let others handle it.
Post # 3
I didn’t clean up, and I never in a million years would have expected my guests to do it. If I had a bridal party, I wouldn’t expect them to do it either. I hired planners who handled gathering and packing away the decor. We designated a family member to take the decor from the venue for us. The planners loaded up her car (there wasn’t a ton) and that was it.
Post # 4
scarlettbegonias87: No, we went off to our honeymoon suite for sexy time! We were fortunate that the families were willing to clean up for us (and there wasn’t a real lot to do). Even if wedding night sex isn’t a must, I feel it would be a slight downer to end my wedding night with half an hour of tidying up.
Post # 5
marbelles: No reason to apologize! We need honest responses, to keep it all fair : ) I’m sure I’ll be so exhausted. Luckily enough I don’t drink, so there will be no worries of being drunk and trying to be productive haha. I figure if enough people help, it shouldn’t take long. The venue will take care of all the chairs and tables and such. I just need to handle all the decor I brought in.
But if my Maid/Matron of Honor has her way, I’ll either be tied up or forcibly escorted off the premises and wont have an option to clean up
Post # 6
We’re having a small wedding, so we’ll both be doing some setup and cleanup. It shouldn’t be too bad I think.
Post # 7
sorry for your Maid/Matron of Honor, but yes… Fiance and I cleaned up after our wedding. We had to – we only had like 20 minutes to get all the guests off the boat. Fiance thought originally very much like your Maid/Matron of Honor and wanted to do the whole drive away into the sunset thing and leave cleanup for close family members. But once I helped him understand how difficult it would be to get family members on board with knowing exactly what needed to be taken down and put in what car, he agreed it would be easier to just do everything ourselves. We did get help from family members as well.
Post # 8
ohnatto: I’m glad you commented–based on the poll results I was starting to think maybe I was crazy! I just have no extra budget to hire someone to do this for us. And can’t get over feeling guilty just leaving while my guests take everything down.
Post # 9
Yup we stayed and helped clean up everything. We loaded up my parents cars with all the decor and gifts. I would feel awful leaving everyone else to do this. They helped make the day great, I’m not leaving them to clean up! It honestly didn’t take that long, like 30 minutes maybe. I think it’s the respectful thing to do unless you hire people to do it.
Post # 10
We cleaned up, but if I had it to do all over again, hell no I wouldn’t. It totally sucked. I would have paid someone to do it knowing what I know now. I was recently at a wedding where we kicked the bride out from cleaning up her own wedding, she has thanked me a dozen times since because she and her husband got a nice send off rather than cleaning up.
Give her the ten, lol.
Post # 11
scarlettbegonias87: No way will I be cleaning anything up ! I plan to be whisked off to our gorgeous accommodation and the venue fee covers all clean up cost thank goodness
Post # 12
Darling Husband and I started to help pack things up, but we got told to leave several times. We wern’t leaving, so my parents, aunt, and Maid/Matron of Honor literally pushed us out the door.
Post # 13
I’m DEFINITELY not going to clean up after my own wedding reception! I’ll have someone take the gifts and someone take our decorations and important things, and I won’t worry about getting any of it till I get back from the honeymoon 🙂
Post # 14
scarlettbegonias87: Nope my aunts have kindly offered to clean up for us.
Post # 15
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Not cleaning up was actually something that was at the forefront of my mind early in planning. The last thing I wanted to do after the day was up was to stay behind in my dress (as the venue only gives us an hour), picking through half eaten food to grab my glassware. No. Asking my bridesmaids and groomsmen to stay behind to help clean will certainly be on my list of requested duties. Thankfully, the venue itself will take care of everything it provides, including linens and chairs and whatnot, the only thing we have to clean up are the items we bring ourselves such as the antique china we want for the place settings and the centerpieces. As it’s a destination wedding we’re limited on what we can bring so I’ve no doubt it can be all cleaned within the hour.
That being said, I do know that a lot of brides stay behind to clean up and I think that’s a valid choice as well.