(Closed) Help me settle a friendly bet–my MOH thinks I'm "crazy"

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did you or do you plan to clean up decor after your wedding?



  • Post # 16
    675 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’ll probably be staying to help.  We don’t have to clean up, we just need to take with us what we brought in.  It’ll be a lot but at least we wont have to pick up food.  And the venue will help us too

    Post # 17
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My vendors and the reception venue cleaned everything up. There was no way I was breaking down anything at our wedding, haha! My Darling Husband and I, and a bunch of our friends, went to the hotel bar and closed that down as well!

    Post # 18
    1983 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Darling Husband and I didn’t clean up. We left as soon as we could to get on with married life. My parents and his parents had already told us that we didn’t have to worry about it though. So we didn’t and we thanked them profusely afterwards.

    Post # 19
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    No to cleaning up. (We did come back the next day and help though)

    Post # 20
    13017 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’m with your MOH! Even if I had had a bare bones budget wedding, I would have somehow found room in the budget for this. 

    And unless we are talking a community sponsored wedding, no way I’d ask invited guests, including bridal party to work the event. That’s not too hospitable. If people pitch in entirely on their own it’s another story.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by  weddingmaven.
    Post # 21
    36 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We didn’t plan on cleaning  up, but ended up having  to do so. We paid our wedding  planner extra to clean up, but she bailed out st the end of the night. If you can get someone else to do it you might want  to. My husband  and I were exhausted and it was the last thing  we wanted  to have to do that night. 

    Post # 22
    601 posts
    Busy bee

    We (meaning my husband, Father-In-Law & BIL) had to take down the photobooth but only because it was in a room used for the hotels breakfast and they needed it gone that night. All other reception stuff was packed by the event staff and we just picked it up the next day. There’s no way I would have had the energy to pack up a truckload of wedding stuff after such an exhausting day. 

    Post # 23
    7310 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Oh heck no. I paid people for that. We were exhausted at the end of the night and had more important things to do… like sleep.

    Post # 24
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    scarlettbegonias87:  no. And I purposely chose my venue because I barely have to lift a finger. They do everything for us, and I literally just need to look good and show up. 


    Post # 25
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

    I didn’t vote because we are doing the pack out the following day. Hopefully some family and bridal party members will be around to help out.

    Post # 26
    1034 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Our venue cleaned up and my mom came back the next day to pick up anything we left there. It was all included in the price of the venue. I’ve actually never heard of cleaning up your own wedding at a traditional wedding venue, but I could understand doing so if your wedding is someplace that wouldn’t be considered “traditional.”

    Post # 27
    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I went to a wedding over the summer where the bride and groom had to clean up the venue before they left. Disaster. They got in a huge fight bc the groom wasn’t helping enough and the bride left without the groom. The wedding party also asked the guests to help since the bride and groom were not getting it done quickly enough. It was horrible. 

    ETA: my venue cleaned everything for us. They packed all the crap in my grandma’s car and we picked it all up the next day from her house. There’s no way we could have cleaned up ourselves.

    Post # 28
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    No, we didn’t clean up after our wedding either. I hired a crew to clean up and return any rentals that needed to be returned, including tuxedos. Sure, it cost a little extra but it was so worth it. My family and friends DID end up staying and helping to clean up just because they were being helpful and wanted to make sure everything was done correctly – but I didn’t expect them too! I planned way in advance so I didn’t have to stay and clean up – I wanted to jet off on my honeymoon as soon as we left, though we did swing back by so we could change out of our wedding attire. 

    However, my sister rented a venue for a weekend and the morning after her wedding she, the bridal party, and any family and friends that stayed at the venue (it was a bed and breakfast ranch with 10 cottages and 4 rooms in a house – all of which were included in the rental of the property) helped clean up the next day after a nice brunch. Honestly, I’d have helped clean up even if I hadn’t stayed the night – but having a private cottage with a hot tub for 3 nights for me and Darling Husband,  PAID for by my sister and her husband (and not even passed off as a “gift”) it was really the LEAST we could do to help.

    So really… it can go either way. Bride’s preference!

    Post # 29
    5152 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    scarlettbegonias87:  My venue actually cleaned it all up for me, asked what car it was going in, and put it all in there. So… no.

    Post # 30
    1776 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We cleaned all of it up.  I asked my parents to help and they were like, no way we have to leave for the after party… well wtf mom, not like WE had anything we wanted to do lol.

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