- 7 years ago
So back in July, my SO and I got into a conversation about marriage. I asked him when he thought he could see us getting married, and he calmly told me that he could see us being married within the next 2-3 years. I had said that I imagined it would be in the next 1-2 years. He pointed out that we agreed on being married in 2 years, then I dropped the subject. This conversation was definitely way better than any others we’d had on the topic though, which I was definitely grateful for. He was able to give somewhat of a timeline. Yay!
That being said, I’ve managed to survive our 4 year anniversary in September, the Christmas holidays AND New Years without saying a word. There were a couple times I caved and looked at rings just for the heck of it, and fell absolutely in love with one that I never thought I would – it was completely different than any other rings we had looked at previously. I confessed to him that I was looking at ring porn, and he had no qualms, wanted me to show him.
A couple weeks ago, we got into a habit of emailing each other little things. I loved it, because it took me back to the early days of when we first started dating and didn’t live together. Anyway. Somehow we got onto the subject of getting engaged. I said (in a cutesy, non-pressure filled way mind you!) I’d really love if maybe, just maybe we could talk about getting engaged by next year. A little sooner than he had originally thought, but a little later than I had originally thought. A perfect compromise!
He wrote back saying that he agreed, and then he added this little gem of information: Don’t worry, you won’t be waiting forever – I have plans 🙂
Exactly like that. Smiley face and everything lol.
Okay. Let me get this straight. Deep breaths. He told me that he wanted to wait 2-3 more YEARS … and now just 6 months later, he suddenly “has plans”? Granted they could be for next week, month, or next year. But still. If they were far off plans, why mention it at all? AHHH. I’m trying so hard to keep a level head and not jump for joy but holy crap you guys I am SO excited! Like seriously, you have no idea how this whole thing has evolved over the past year. It’s been quite something. And the best part is, he didn’t HAVE to say he had plans. Not at all! But he did. 🙂
So then, yesterday we were watching some Newlywed show. After it finished, he started joking about what he thinks I’d say if we went on the show. I smiled and was like “wait, we wouldn’t go on that show, we’re just dating… we aren’t newlyweds, babe” and then he was like “not newlyweds YET!” really loud and excitedly, almost yelling, and then gave me this big goofy smile.
After that, we went to the mall, and he started talking about how he has to start getting things ready for me for Valentine’s Day. He never talks about Valentine’s Day ahead of time like that. I mean, last year he got me a card and chocolates like, the day before at 10pm haha mostly because he’d been working crazy hours and didnt have time, but still. He’s never mentioned it a month in advance. He’s also been super affectionate on top of all this stuff, saying I love you non-stop… it’s entertaining.
I don’t know, you guys. I know these little things could mean squat. And I’m trying very, very hard but… I can’t stop smiling because it kinda feels like he may be up to something.