- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
You could always do what the magazines say and flip through a magazine, find the ring you want and to just happen to leave it open on the table for him to see. Or even your computer as well, leave up the screen with the ring on it there…
Go into the stores and try things on! Rings are like dresses, you have to try them on to mke sure it’s perfect! As far as letting him know, if you do want to pick out your ring, then let him pick out the stone. Or pick a few rings you absolutely love and let him pick the final one. SO originally wanted me to have 2 or three that I loved, but when we went shopping together, we both knew THE ring the second I put it on my finger. I don’t mind knowing the ring, he’s picking the stone, and the date, etc. So it will still be a surprise, I just know I’ll get the ring we both fell in love with. Definitely tell him what you’re thinking! Keep some open communication, things will turn out better! If he’s open to shopping together, I say go for it!
@Shel2523: I feel so much better after reading your response! He’s in the process of gettinh his PhD and has some time off next month, that he hinted was when he would be looking. Even though I’ve said I wouldn’t talk about it anymore, I think I’ll let him know that whenever HE is ready, I would like to try a few on and then it’s up to him to decide. Thanks again!
I think you should definitely tell him what you’re thinking. If he’s planning on getting you the one you like, it doesn’t really seem like he wants to pick it out himself. An engagement ring is a huge purchase, and most guys I know would rather go shopping with you to make sure you get what you want instead of spending a large amount of money on something you’ll always second guess.
What was your reason for stopping the engagement talk? If it was because you want the proposal to be a surprise, you can still take him ring shopping a few times, and know what ring you’re getting while let him do his own thing with the proposal.
I’m getting engaged (hopefully) within the next few weeks- I am pretty sure I even know the day, even though it’s not significant just because my Boyfriend or Best Friend isn’t very creative. We’re currently long distance (but only until Monday!) and haven’t had the opportunity to go ring shopping together, but he wants to make sure I get what I want. That’s why he’s proposing with a placeholder ring so that we can pick something out together and take our time, but he can still satisfy my need to get engaged =) Then, after I get my “real” engagement ring, I’ll just wear whatever he gives me this month as a right hand ring.
Oh good! I’m glad it helped! That sounds like the perfect way to bring it up, but still letting him be in control! See you don’t need advice, you know what you’re doing!
Keep us updated, and let us know if you find a ring! Good luck in your shopping!
@MeiFrancis: I’ve stopped talking about getting engaged because he’s really stressed right now with school and because I was annoying myself, frankly. I really like your idea about the placeholder ring. I’ll keep that in mind and let him know that’s an option. Thanks!
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