- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My sister (MOH) asked me for a list of people I wanted to invite and said she would talk care of contacting them and planning the night, with my input of course. 12 girls are invited (this includes my Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 bridesmaids). We are going to meet at my friend’s house for drinks, appetizers and pizza. A limo will pick us up, take us to a bar in the city, and bring us back to my friend’s apartment at the end of the night where everyone is welcome to stay over. Keeping the cost of the night under $100 (not including drinks) was pretty important to me, so my sister specifically planned a night to stay within that budget. We aren’t going out for dinner, staying in a hotel, or doing any day time activities. The cost has been known by everyone since January. The cost is as follows:
-$55 per person for the limo
-$25 per person for a “cut the line pass” at the bar.
The bar we’re going to is a dueling piano bar that is pretty popular and you can easily wait in line for 2 hours to get in, with a cover charge of $15. This pass is $10 more and allows everyone to waltz right in. I have only been there once and loved it!
Yesterday, my sister let it slip that there has been some drama. I wish she hadn’t told me because now I am really bothered by it.
Apparently one of my friends was giving her a hard time about the cost to get into the bar (not the cost of the whole night – just the bar). She complained to my sister as well to one of the bridesmaids. This upset me for some reason – I don’t want people to be mad my sister or think she is being insensitive, and I don’t want my sister to be annoyed with my friends! I really care about what people think so I take this stuff to heart. Also, compared to the elaborate bachelorette parties that other people in our circle have thrown, this one is so inexpensive and low-key, so it shocks me that someone would complain about the cost.
Also, some people haven’t been responsive and my sister has had to basically stalk them to get them to RSVP one way or the other.
I’m bothered on 2 levels – that my sister is getting angry and not just letting it go (because I feel like it could be a lot worse!!!) and that some friends aren’t making it easy for her to begin with. Someone say something to help me stop obsessing over the logistics!