Post # 1
We will have a small wedding in Santorini – an island of Greece with 40 guests invited (I suspect around 30 will come). The guests attended will be 9 from my family, and the rest are his mates (no family from FI), my family is quite traditional, from overseas, and have never met our friends, so they will be quite different background in our group.
We have discussion about our pre-wedding events- duing a day before the actually wedding date, which will be paid by us. Fiance would like to have dinner after the wedding (or whenever time suits most of the people) with his mates, and no family members. We come up with 3 options. Option 3 is lowest cost, option 1 & 2 are similar costs but we are willing to accomodate them.
I have 3 options from our wedding planner that sound most interesting, and all of them can be booked around 3 months before the wedding date (our due date for RSVP is 4 months in advance) and no minimum number of guests required. It’s still very early now, but I want to get it finalised so that we can out them in our invitation to send out in June next year. I have been discussed with my Fiance, and we are still undecided. He is happy with either ways. I’m very undecided, because each has its own pros and cons, and I dont know what they will like to do the most.
Option 1: A boat cruise – 5 hrs – around the island with snack on board and with a stop over at Red Beach for everyone (including my family) to relax on their own and have lunch – paid by guests. This will be in our formal invitation to everyone. Fiance will have a casual drink or dinner his mates only after the wedding.
Option 2: A casual dinner for everyone, this will be in our invitation. Fi will still have a casual drink at sunset and/or dinner with his mates after the wedding (organised later on by himself and just by emails with his mates).
Option 3: A casual dinner/ lunch with my family only before the wedding; and a casual dinner with his mates separately. Both of them wont be in our invitation.
If you are the guests at a destination wedding. Which option you will like the most, and you will love to attend? And Please leave your comments on what you think or if you would do something differently.
Thanks alot for your help.
Post # 3
@zoecn: I would enjoy the boat idea the best however I’m not too keen on guests paying for their own lunch afterwards- especially after having spent so much $$ to get to the destination wedding (flights, hotels, food). If you can’t afford to pay for everyones food then I’d go with option 2.
Post # 5
@ BeckySo: Thanks for your input, the lunch thing is not an option at this stage, because I dont think there is even a big restaurant around the beach, probably a small place for casual lunch, and I dont want to tie anyone into specific schedule, so if there is places to have a big lunch together, we probably will take care of them on the way, but wont be something formal. This will need to organise with the planner, I haven’t decided yet, so no details involved so far.
Post # 6
I would love the cruise to see the islands, however, i agree i think it would be lovely if you could fund this seeing as they have spent so much money to get there. In saying that i don’t think would be expected you pay for pre-wedding activities. i went to a wedding in Thailand last November and they had a pre-wedding cruise and we had to pay (which to be honest i never thought it was rude). They sent out details to all guests saying we will be on a cruise and if you have no plans we would love for you to join us, the cost is $$$$. I never crossed my mind that we had to pay.
Post # 7
Hi island_bee : that is such a great idea, I think it is best for us to organise brunch/dinner after the wedding for everyone paid by us, plus a drink with his mates around sunset, will be from our pockets as well, and I will send everyone information relating to the cruise, and the $$$ per head and if they have no plans they can join with us. I dont think everyone will mind much.
Although, on a note side, I have been to a wedding with 3 days activities in Thailand, and the couples actually paid for everything including accomodation (with 100+ guests), they and their parents are really wealthy though. So I feel quite awkward now asking them to pay for the cruise. 🙁
Post # 8
Unfortunately we didn’t make it to red beach but Perissa and Kamari both had lots and lots of restaurants on the foreshore that would def be big enough for 30. another option could be to pack a picnic if u decide to still do the cruise. Your hotel could help you with this, everyone I met on the island was very helpful like that. There is a supermarket right in the middle of Fira if you wanted to DIY. The boat is a FANTASTIC idea & a really nice gesture for your guests as they’d be spending SO much $ getting there if you can afford to pay for everyone, it would be nice to keep the group together & not split them up beforehand. I think definitely pay for your reception dinner & have everyone together, I would imagine guests will expect this. I have not been to a reception where I’ve had to pay before & I’ve not been to a wedding that was ceremony only and no reception dinner.