- 5 years ago
My wedding pet peeve is money showers. I’ve read every version of it on invitations, and it drives me bonkers; “monetary gifts appreciated,” “monetary gifts preferred” etc. It seriously drives me crazy.
A good friend of mine just sent a shower invitation with this listed, and I’m trying really hard not to be annoyed, but sometimes I just can’t help feeling like a walking ATM! I guess my feeling is that if you’re asking for money at a shower, you’re definitely asking for money for a wedding (which I understand and am okay with) but at least at a wedding you’re celebrating a marriage! What are you celebrating at a shower? Am I being fed solely because I’m handing you a cheque? To me (and my culture), a shower is supposed to be where you set the couple up for their life together and you give them gifts for their home… towels, sheets, dishes, etc. If you’re asking me for money.. what for? To pay for your wedding? To buy stuff later? To buy a house? I just can’t seem to get my head around it. If you have everything you need already, why do you need to have a shower? If you don’t have a house/place to live yet, why can’t you store the items until you do? It is my personal opinion that you shouldn’t be asking your guests to finance your wedding/honeymoon/down payment.
I know that regardless I’d be giving a gift (which I’d use money to pay for) but there is a sentimentality when it comes to gift giving. You can say “oh my friend gave me this great serving set” one day. But with cash? I don’t know. Something gets lost and I feel like it misses the point of a shower.
I’m tryyyying to be more open minded here but I’m having a hard time. Someone shed some light on this because it really irks me when I see it. And if you’re going to suggest bringing a gift anyway, I actually have done that to a “monetary gifts preferred” shower and my aunt has yet to forgive me (and it has been almost two years), and I will NEVER forget how awful and uncomfortable I felt holding that gift while getting the evil eye from the bride, MOB, MOG and the whole bridal party! 🙁
Be nice, bees.. I’m just trying to understand and be more open minded…