(Closed) Help Me Understand -BM Dress situation

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hummmmm?

Could your sister get another dress that is different from the other girls? Some ladies do this with their Maid/Matron of Honor in a different colour.

Otherwise I think the only solution is to start again. 🙁 You can try to talk to your sis about wearing the dress and what her specific concerns are about it so you can help find a solution.

I had a friend who wanted us to wear VERY short BM’s dresses. I refused to wear it because I have a surgical scar that is VERY obvious on my one knee. She knew I wouldn’t want to wear that dress. In the end we compramised and I wore tights, but I was VERY close to asking to be out of the wedding party so I can understand where your sis is coming from.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it all depends on your sister. Is she the type to make a big deal about something like this just for attention, or do you think she is genuinely uncomfortable? Personally, I would not make someone wear something that they felt that strongly about.  Being petite myself, I can’t honestly imagine how your sister, who is a full foot taller than I am, would fit into a dress meant for someone my size. Since your mother offered to pay the difference of the price for the other BMs, I think you should just start over and find a new dress, or go back with the original bridal shop dress. I’d apologize to your other bridesmaids, but I’m sure they would understand returning the dresses considering the dress didn’t fit your sister. It doesn’t sound like anyone really loved the dress from Sears, it was just the best one you happened to find, so I don’t think any of your maids would be too upset. Yeah, it is a lot of work to please one person, but considering she is your sister, I think it’s worth it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I am confused – all this is coming from your mom? Have you spoken to your sister directly? Does your sister feel that she would quit the wedding party over the dress, or is your mom putting words in her mouth?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

What confuses me most is your mom’s comment about not having your sister in the wedding party. That sounds weird.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When reading, it seemed like the dress was really short, but that is actually a very flattering length on your sister!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Huh. Well not knowing the details of your relationship with your sister it’s hard to say, but if I were in your place I would want to find out how she actually feels about it!

Based on that picture, it looks like the dress fits her at a similar length to the one in the photo of the model! And I would have thought the proportion from shoulder to bust could even be taken in a little, rather than being too short? Well, you could just go for a new dress to keep the peace, but it looks nice to me.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

What exactly does your sister want? (The dress looks flattering on her, but she may feel uncomfortable especially as she is larger than the other girls).

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The dress looks MUCH better on her than I imagined and I think she should just wear it since she isn’t paying for it anyways.  I don’t understand why your mom is on her side, and it seems like if your mom would back you up your sister would follow suit.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

At the moment, the fit isn’t very flattering, but how would it look if she had a more supportive bra, heels, and the shoulders taken up a bit (it’s gaping at the moment)?

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it looks that bad at all.  Maybe a touch more cleavage than I would be comfortable with my 17 year old showing, but not as bad as your post made it sound.

 

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