(Closed) Help me. We found a house and I hate it.

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mspartridge:  I think decorating will go a long way, but do you think it’s possible that you could eventually learn to love the house? Maybe you just need to get used to it? What is it exactly that you don’t like about it? Perhaps it might be possible to do a little renovation work to change the major things you don’t like? Is there anything that you DO like about the structure/style of the house?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you talk to an architect or remodeling company and fix the style? Maybe if you replace the siding, flooring, paint colors, etc with something more sleek/less country? Can you rearrange walls inside to something you like, how mich would that cost? Would it be worth it for the location? Or is it completely a no go?

I understand this predicament. It took us forever to decide on a house as nothing was quite right. I found a house that I loved but turns out the ceilings were too short for Fh’s taste and that isn’t something you can fix. 

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mspartridge:  You absolutely can change the asthetic of a house. In the end a house is just a bunch of walls, the things that contribute to an asthetic can be changed. A cheese painted brick fireplace can’t be changed? Why not? My parents had theirs covered in stucco and it looks a million times better and more modern. You can also tear down the brick and put up a whole new surround.

Check out this blog for some amazing before and after photos:http://www.younghouselove.com/photo-gallery-2/

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I don’t know. I’m in the “redecorating/renovation goes a LONG way camp.” My SO’s parents house looks like the southwest vomited and their house was created. Horrible. But repaint, refinish or replace the cabinetry, update some of the molding and replace some countertops and voila! A gorgeous house would be sitting in it’s place. It’s not even 100% just their choice of paint. It’s things they’ve installed in the house as well but if it were gone or updated it would be amazing. With the right creativity you can do a lot with a house. I’d do some googling for interior decor ideas before you completely say no.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You might be amazed how much you could actually change a house if you’re willing to put aside some time and money and really commit to the project. I hate to say this, because Fiance and I were in the same situation with a particular house when we were still shopping, but at the same time, the pros you list are really really strong. Have you seriously looked at all your options with changing this house?

Have you seen anything you would like better on the market in your price point, even if it’s gone now? I’d say if you’ve seen better and know it’s plausible, you have a leg to stand on with your Fiance. However, if nothing you’ve seen on the market would have worked better for either of you, you might have to commit to getting creative. If that happens, my guess is that once you start the necessary projects, the house will start to mean a lot more to you as well, and will really start to feel like your house. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OP, do you have pictures of the house? Maybe we can give you some suggestions to change things that are not so costly?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

“well, why are we even buying the house if we’re just going to tear it down to the studs and redo the whole thing?”

Because you don’t always find a home that is designed and decorated to your liking. Sometimes you have to look at just the layout and location and imagine what could be done to it. This is especially common in older homes that haven’t been renovated to the modern standard. They aren’t bad homes. They just haven’t been brought up to date. And a home is kinda like a long-term project anyways. You move in, you paint walls, put up curtains, replace floors or cabinets to your liking. People who can move in and not change a thing are lucky but changing things doesn’t mean it’s a dud. It means it’s a house.

That being said if you’d rather be hit by a truck than sign on the dotted line there is no reason why you can’t keep looking. 🙂 But I’d say don’t rule it out immediately. You may be looking at a hidden gem.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with PP that you actually can do a lot to change the aesthetics of the house–yes, it will possibly cost a lot of money (unless you are both very hands on DIY-ers), but it’s absolutely feasible. If the “bones” of the house (floorplan, etc) are good, you’d be amazed at what a good contractor can do with the space.

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@mspartridge:  LOL @ Celine Dion.

If you have the money, it isn’t hard to change various aspects about the house. Fireplaces can be ripped out. Roofs can even be raised and lowered, though it isn’t cheap. What if you took out the attic and raised the roof pitch? You’re looking at probably $20,000 here (rough estimate based on pulling something out of the clear blue sky) but won’t you be saving that in car maintenance and gas over the time you live there based on the fact that Fiance can walk to work? You wouldn’t even have to HAVE two cars. Selling one might pay for the reno, and dropping the second car insurance policy would probably make up for the rest if it didnt.

Plus, as someone who has lived an hour from work and who now lives about 10 minutes from work, you CANNOT underestimate the power and beauty of a short commute. It means less stress over the course of the day, more time to sleep in the morning, and more time to hang out and do chores at night. Plus, it might even equate to paying less in day care fees someday. I’d say get the house.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

To me, buying real estate is all about the property – the house is a distant second. In regards to the house – is it sturdy, that is what kind of shape is it in? The foundation, the plumbing, etc.

The looks of the house is almost dead last for me as there are a million or more things that can be done to change the looks. Exterior – there is painting, sliding, rock-facing, landscaping, etc. An addition can be added. Interior there is even more – walls can be added or knocked out, wall and floor treatments. The fun part is looking around, figuring on the look you want and then working to make it happen!

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The layout of our house is what I hate.  I could deal with kitchy look – that I can change.  We’re about to tear out a couple walls, move some cabinets, put down new floor, and re-trim the whole upstairs.  Should cost us less than $5k total.  We bought new appliances with the cash we got at the wedding.

I guess what I’m saying is make sure you don’t hate it because of the other people’s stuff.  There were cat stencils on our walls.  CATS.  But now all the stencils have been sanded and painted over and our furniture is in here and it looks much more modern. 

Also I’m jealous of your cornfield.  I die for open spaces. 

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