(Closed) HELP ME WEDDING BEES!!!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it’s possible to still get “the feeling” after trying on a lot of dresses…I tried on well over 50 dresses before I found my dress. And I still didn’t have that crying moment you see on tv…I thought it was very pretty and very me. But I wasn’t so sure that I bought it immediately…i tried it on three more times before I made my mind up! I think I ended up knowing it was the one bc I kept comparing every other dress I tried on to that one. But don’t think it has to be some big, dramatic, emotional moment when you find the one…it certainly wasn’t for me!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think there is hope for you! Not everyone has an intense dress moment though.  After 50 dresses do you find that you are trying on the same style of dress over and over? Maybe if that’s the case, you should try on something COMPLETELY different, maybe even something you think you won’t like.  Who knows? it may surprise  you and just be the one!

Post # 5
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1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

There is definitely hope for you! I tried on about 40 dresses over one year, and I had serious doubts about ever finding “the one”. I went yesterday with my mom and fell in love with a dress! I didn’t cry or anything, but I haven’t stopped thinking about it since I had it on. I’m going to get measured and buy it today!

You will definitely find it! Happy shopping 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

GOOD LUCK!!!
For me it wasnt so much the dyer completely melt away feeling. Mine was more… I tried on a ton of dresses. id say 40. found some that i really liked… and one day I was at a shop, tried one that i really liked… then more, THEN back to the first of in that particular shop. I started crying. SO i bought it. haha. It is very beautiful. Im sure there is something else out there that i would like equally as much. But i do love it. 

Happy Hunting!!!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

There’s hope. I used to work at a bridal salon so I was tainted when I started looking for my own wedding gown. I think it was very difficult for me to find my dress because I kept doubting myself. I kept wondering if I’m going to miss out on next season’s dresses or on dresses outside of my budget. I expected to have that overwhelming feeling of “THIS IS THE ONE!” as soon as I put “the dress”. Sadly, I did not have that overwhelming exitement. I went to three different stores and tried on maybe 25 dresses altogether. I even ordered a dress that I thought was “the dress”. I had a specfic look in mind- a strapless sweetheart neckline, mermaid silhouette, with “pleated wrap” bodice. I found many dresses in such style, but none of them screamed out to me. At the last run of trying on dresses, I picked the dress that was the style I was looking for, perfectly within my budget, the color was right and it was going to work with the shoes I wanted to wear. I thought it was everything I wanted so I ordered. After leaving the store, I began having second thoughts. I tried on a dress that was all lace that needed to be altered to have the sweetheart neckline, the mermaid skirt and lower back. Needless to say, it was not exactly what I had originally envisioned. It was going to cost double my original budget (which I had already raised in hopes of finding the perfect one) after all the alterations and the sash it needs. But my decision was eating at me until I finally went back and tried on a dress that married the two styles along with the lace dress. Sure enough, I had ordered the wrong dress. I loved the dress that I found that had the LOOK of both dresses (the pleating, with lace, mermaid skirt, it only needed the neckline changed and it was going to be below my original budget WITH alteration. Still, when I tried on the lace dress, I realized that was the dress. It was timeless, romantic and elegant (everything I wanted to FEEL in a dress). I almost felt like crying because had I not gone back to follow my instict, I would probably be doubting myself all the way tot he altar. After the alterations are done, it’s going to be MY perfect dress. Despite the fact that its well over my budget, I knew I made the right decision to go back and change my order. Thankfully, I went back the same day and did not run into any trouble in changing my mind. You have to keep in mind what look or feeling you want to have in your dress. The two could be very different. Stay true to yourself. I’ve always considered my style as timeless and classic and that’s how I want to be on my wedding day. Myself. Good luck in your search. I’m sure you will find the dress of your dreams. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

YES! YES YES YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

I tried on like….over 50 dresses at least. I totally had the ‘ah-hah, this is IT’ moment and got my dress. 🙂 So, yea, keep trying. You’ll find her. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmm I see it like looking at rings with your so… some of us squeal with joy and exclaim “this is it” while others cant make up our minds, put one on layaway and realize oh crap im really in love with the other one! Lol. Ill give you the advice my daddy always gave me…”never just settle”. Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

one thing, dont settle. and if its possible even if you think you found the one walk away..even if its just to go grab a coffee let it digest and if you cant stop thinking about it, thats the one! i ended up being a two dress bride beause i didnt follow my gut and somewhat got caught up in the moment. the 2nd dress i got almost like a calm feeling like “yes, this is it, my dress” not a lets cry and scream and jump up and down feeling lol   and knowing what you DONT like is just as important as what you do. Also once you find the one try to stop looking at other girls in dresses and watching say yes to the dress lol seeing other girls all done up and glowing in other dresses that have been altered to fit them can cause you to look back and have unneded dress regret

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

See if you can find a consultant with a great track record for helping brides pick “the one”. If it hadn’t been for my consultant, I would never have tried on the dress that ultimately was it. A good consultant should be able to look at you, and listen to you, and know what the best choice will be.

DO NOT SETTLE.

Post # 12
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hope its possible to get that feeling as I’m still searching for it. I ahve tried on about 20+ dresses and I know everyone says its “You might not be the type of person that gets that feel and crys over a dress” but I am that type of person! I cry over eveything else that I love so why not my wedding dress… lol

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think I saw about 2000 different rings online, and it got to the part where I couldn’t tell the difference between them. And then there it was, THE ring! I knew I’d never feel that way about another ring ever again, and I had to have it. 

It’s not a dress, but kind of the same situation. I also saw so many dresses online, they were all nice. Pretty. Didn’t want any of them, they didn’t stand out. But then I also found THE one. She is gorgeous, and I have to have that too^^ 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think there is hope that you find one that you love more than the dresses you previously tried on, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will have the “cry dress momenet”as we see on TV, so just keep trying more dresses on, maybe some differnet styles, cuz sometimes you may think you are not suitble to one style, but you may change your opinion after trying it on!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

After a lot of dresses it would be really hard!  When I found my dress I was like “but is this really the one?” and the sales lady said “Ok, if you could change anything about it, what would it be and I’ll try to find one like that” and I couldn’t come up with a single thing I would change about it!  That’s how I knew it was the one.  It wasn’t a “this is the one” feeling, and I totally second guessed it for a while after I bought it, but then I went to “visit” it again and then I was sure.  I say pick a few that you like best and come up with things you’d change if you could.  It might make you see how perfect one is, but if there are really things you’d want to change, keep looking.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

yes – you can get it.  Consider taking notes on what it is that you like and dont like about each dress you try on.  Perhaps the stores will work with you to pull the perfect combo or sometimes they can call a designer and have the top of one dress combined with the bottom of another.

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