(Closed) Help me with my new (adopted) sister – advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Is Justin Bieber still popular? LOL, I don’t keep up with any of that stuff. It seems girls are growing up SO much faster than I ever did. I think I was still consumed with skip-it, puffy paint, and Punky Brewster at that age.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That’s a tough one.Is she girly? Maybe wait until she gets here and take her out for bonding time and pick her up a few things. You could get nail polish,lipgloss,scented lotions,bodywash,etc.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

-Browse through the Young Adult Fiction bestseller lists on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel. The Hunger Games, The Maze Runner, the Divergent series, any book by John Green, Sara Dessen, or Ellen Hopkins. 

-Technology is cool: headphones, cool little gadets, that kind of stuff

-Being “grown up” is cool, so make-up is a big thing. But real makeup, not the Bonnie Bell stuff. Nail polish is cool, too. Also, if you live near a specific college (or went to one or work for one) it’s super cool to have a shirt from that school. 

-BE CAREFUL with things like specific video games and movies. A lot of times people will have very specific loyalties and favorites. Don’t be afraid to ask her specifically what actors, directors, or games she likes. Know exactly what she’s into and do your research.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s awesome that you’re thinking of a care package!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not sure if they’re popular where you are (I’m in NZ), but the band ‘One Direction’ is pretty big at the moment, all the 13 year old girls here are going crazy for them! I’m not very much help with anything else though  – I can’t remember what I was into at 13!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Why don’t you organise a girly pyjama evening for you and both your sisters so you can bond?  You could go and hire a movie (see if they have one with subtitles in her native language so that she can understand everything – it will also help her pick up the language she hears). Have facemasks, make cookies, listen to music, play games etc.  As for a care pack, you mentioned she liked your shirt, get one in a similar style and some make-up bits for her, as well as your favourite book when you were 13 for her.  With regards to music, it sounds like a Justin Bieber CD would be great for her.  One DIrection are pretty popular too.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Where is she from? Maybe you could ask her what her favorite snacks from her country are, and head to the local supermarket for her nationality to see if they have any of them? I know from spending months abroad that food is the easiest way to avoid total culture shock. She’d really appreciate that, I bet!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hello Kitty. I see this in the jr. high halls all over in the variety of styles Kitty comes in.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Maybe too off the wall for what you’re going for:

  • What about string lights? I loved putting them in my room at that age. Glow Stars
  • A Bed in a Bag. One of my friends who was in foster care said that was one of the best gifts she ever recieved.
  • Curling Irons, straightener, blow dryer
  • Digital Camera

“In” things

  • Sephora makeup kit with different shadows.
  • Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, Lady Gaga
  • Twilight ๐Ÿ˜€
  • Magazines like Teen Vogue, Seventeen (subscription or single)
  • Neon anything (backpack, shirts, belt, purse)
  • Scarves

Pringles in an ‘American’ flavor are a good choice for someone who lives outside the country.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Actually, movies are a great way to learn a language.  Put on the English subtitles– if she’s better at reading than speaking, sometimes it’s really hard to pick out the words when people are speaking quickly, but having the English written makes it easy to check. 

Take her to a bookstore if she loves reading, or get her a library card!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Captain013:  Also, you have the best suggestions– now I’m reminiscing about decorating my teenage room at my parents’ house!  I definitely second the ideas for lights/stars to decorate, hair things, nail polish (and remover for the mistakes), magazines, and neon things!  

I was a tomboy but I loved testing out the girl things in my room before I wore painted nails to school or actually had curly hair in public!

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