- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I’m trying to figure out what time events should be. The wedding is 2 hours north of Boston on Sunday of Memorial Day weekend.
Bachelorette party: Should it be thursday or friday night? Most of my gals are out of town, including my two bridesmaids. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives an hour away. I’ve got some out of country people as well. I want to maximize chances of attendance, without impacting the budget too signficantly, so we’re looking at having it on the wedding weekend. If I have it on Thursday in Boston (where I live and most people seem inclined to fly into), some out-of-towners are less likely to be able to make it, but we won’t be having to deal with having to get up early and being hungover at the rehearsal. We’ll be able to leisurely drive up on Friday, spend the night there and help my folks (see below) get their place ready if need be. That said, it’s not ideal for the few in-town folks who are planning on working the following day. If I have it on Friday, I want to push the rehearsal late as I reasonably can because we’ll have a 2 hour drive north on Saturday morning to get to the rehearsal. (Not a lot of party options near the rehearsal beyond college stuff and I’m too old for that.)
Rehearsal & BBQ: When should the rehearsal & BBQ start? We are inviting all guests to a casual bbq following the reception (we have a lot of out of town guests). The rehearsal is 40 minutes from the bbq location, my parent’s place. It’s a drive, but we’ll have lots of space, a large deck overlooking a beautiful lake, and plenty of space for outdoor activities. The pastor wants to allot 1.5 hours(!) for the rehearsal. Another couple is getting married here that day and will have the chapel from ~2:30-5:30. If we have the rehearsal at 12, it means everyone leaves Boston comfortably at ~9:30 to drive up north, rehearsal at 12, done 1:30 (hoping 1), and could start festivities at 2/2:15. That is later than my parents would like – they think an afternoon bbq needs to be much earlier. If we start at 10AM to have a 12PM bbq start, well, we’re not morning people so getting up at 7AM is beyond less than exciting, particularly if I have the bachelorette party the night before. Also, later might be a bit easier for those folks flying in that day. (That said, international people and most of those across the country are likely coming on Friday night.)
Note: My parents don’t really want to have a dinner bbq in the evening. They want to check into the Inn that we’re using as a reception site. We have the reception site rooms fully rented out to us, so there’s some benefit to us actually being there on Saturday and not spending the entire day away from it. (One of the reasons we choose it was for the “hang out” properties to it.) I’m suspecting we’ll rent their s’mores thing and do s’mores that evening.