(Closed) Help me with the bedeken and ketubah signing

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
Post # 4
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

are you going to have a meeting with your rabbi? he should be able to tell you in detail what you will be doing.

Post # 6
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

The only thing I’d add is that if you want to make the ceremony more egalitarian, you could put the kippah on your fiance after he veils you.  (Incidentally, if you don’t want to, you don’t need to come in with your face veiled, he can veil you or put your blusher down after the ketubah signing.)

Here’s my post on our bedecken: 


It was my favorite part of our wedding day. ;-P

Post # 7
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Often times, instead of you going to him, your fiance will be brought to you, in a rowdy group of his friends and family!  Then, you can do the veiling (and if you would like, give him a kippah, we’re doing that too), and then sign the ketubah together.  You can all your guests, anyone who wants, or just your immediate family be present for this.  During this part, most of the guests will be going to the ceremony site.

I’ve definitely posted this book on here before, but just in case you haven’t seen it yet, the book, “the new jewish wedding” by anita diamant is very very helpful.  There is information about interfaith, and just general jewish wedding information.  I think you will find it very helpful, especially without the guidance of a rabbi to help flesh everything out!  I would be happy to bounce ideas because we are planning our jewish wedding at the same time!

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