Post # 1
Ok ladies, I need some help! The man and I had a “discussion” last night about how he doesn’t really try to woo or court me anymore. We try to go on dates, but they are usually just to the same restaurants we always go to.
Turns out, he feels that I haven’t done anything special for him in awhile either. I always thought that a way to a man’s heart is through food, so I cook him nice dinners every night (well, nice for me, who is notorious for NOT cooking). I told him I thought that was special, and what was his response? “Well, we need to eat.” Not too romantic, but I’m not going to blame him.
So now I’m trying to think of some fun things to do for him. I can’t really get him flowers, and I’ve tried leaving cute notes around the house (he says he’s not a “cute note” kind of guy), and while he loves video games, I’m not about to buy him a game that he may hate or already have bought, so I’m at a loss. I’m thinking a nice massage, but does anyone have any thoughts/suggestions/recommendations? I’d REALLY appreciate it!
Post # 3
A few ideas:
Get a cute frilly apron too cook dinner in. Wear only the apron. Tell him you are dessert.
Make a point to find “new” places and activities. When you go out, go to a resturant you’ve never been to; perhaps even a totally new type of cuisine.
Go on a picnic; make sandwiches and take a bottle of wine. Make it someplace fairly secluded… get a little frisky out in nature afterwards! 😉
Do you have a key to his car? While he’s at work, leave a pair of sexy panties on his seat with a note that you’ll be waiting for him at home after work.
Post # 4
Good ideas! I like the apron idea! We definitely try new places and restaurants, but for some reason we always end up back at our restaurant staples!
Any other takers?
Post # 5
For my guy its humor that always seems to get his attention. So i try to do things that are spontaneous and give a good laugh.
For instance one time he made a comment about white trash people so i picked him up that night in my best white trash outfit and cooked a white trash meal lol he couldn’t stop laughing… and took me out for a non- white trash night the next evening.
Be creative- make him an “I love you” book with reasons you love him and pictures! Tell him that you love it when he did/does this etc so he can be like “oh yeah i remember when i used to open the door for you.. you notice when i do and don’t?! hmm maybe i should do that more often now”
Give him a back rub and tell him he has to reciprocate.. poor some beers and put on his favorite movie and vola cuddle time!
Post # 6
I love the white trash idea!
I’m not a real “crafty” person, so I think the book is out – plus, his ex was really into scrapbooking and “logging” everything, and he never really liked it. We are total cuddle-bugs. We love to make tea and watch movies. I think since we do it a lot we need a little bit of newness.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 7
Could you meet up for a ‘date’ somewhere.. getting out of the house might make it feel more special. Go to a bar, have some drinks and have a laugh (not a club style drinking bar maybe but if you went somewhere really nice before dinner for wine or cocktails that could be fun?
Post # 8
Umm… Are you sure he wasn’t just trying to throw your comment back at you, so he wouldn’t have to deal with your desire to be more woo’ed by him? I’m kind of dragging my heels about giving you suggestions to do nice things for him because I think that cooking a nice dinner EVERY NIGHT is incredibly, awesomely nice of you. So what if you need to eat? You don’t need to feed him– you put all that effort into taking care of him, and he downplays it, so you feel like you should be doing more for him? I think you should suggest that he cook dinner every other night– then you’ll both be doing nice things for each other. Dinner is super nice. If you want to make it seem more like wooing, dim the lights, light a candle, and give him a kiss when you put his food in front of him. I don’t mean to go against the grain here…
Post # 9
-Text messages throughout the day just saying “I love you” or “I miss you” or “Can’t wait to see you tonight.” The guy and I don’t see each other for a large part of the day and I can’t really have my phone on me much (I can’t have my phone on during work hours) so we do this a couple of times a day.
-My guy plays baseball and was going to a major league tryout down in San Diego. I knew he would be leaving super early in the morning but I couldn’t go support him because I had a work meeting all day. To make him know I was rooting for him I packed him a lunch and bought a bag of his favorite cookies. I snuck them in his truck after he fell asleep so it would be a surprise when he left.
-This one is kind of silly but still cute. I work with kids part-time and we do crafts pretty often. Part of my job is to actually do the craft with the kids so I make stuff for him. I’ve made him lots of keychains and pictures. It is just an innocently sweet way to say I was thinking of you today 🙂
Post # 10
Wow, I just realized more people posted on this! I’m still getting used to this site, so my apologies!!!!!
Thanks for the suggestions! I definitely have some ideas! I surprised him by taking him to the fair this weekend, which he loved!
@AnneNM82: No, I really don’t think he was throwing it back at me. A) I probably vented a little more than I should have (but that’s what this place is for right?), and made it sound like he’s this horrible guy that doesn’t appreciate me or the things I do. He actually offers to cook all the time, so I don’t want to put blame on him for that. B) I don’t think he realized how “special” I thought cooking dinner is for him. I reminded him that before meeting him, I never cooked (like, at all, I microwaved and ate out all the time!) and that I really put an effort into cooking now because I love doing things for him (he never asks me to cook. Again, he always offers). So please don’t think that he’s a bad guy!
Post # 11
Why don’t you guys cook together? Pick a fun receipe that you both want to try & make it together. I have more fun cooking when its with my Darling Husband.
Post # 12
This sounds a little weird and silly typing it..but…fiance and I have always fantasized about getting dressed up and meeting up at a bar, acting like we don’t know eachother, have a few drinks, shamelessly flirt with one another then end up at a hotel 🙂 Kind of adds some excitement and fun.
Post # 13
My SO and I leave each other notes. Like every once and a while, I’ll come home to a note or get a card in the mail from him. It’s nice when you aren’t expecting it.
Post # 14
I’m still shocked that food doesn’t work. Whenever I want to make my hubby happy, I make him peanut butter and jelly cookies, and it never gets old for him. This week my make hubby happy plans are brisket and rugelach. I guess I got lucky, he’s easy to please!
Post # 15
I know exactly where your coming from! My husband and I have had this conversation a few times actually haha.
-Some things I’ve done in the past are making his lunch for work and leaving a note on the napkin I put in there
-I made a 101 reasons why I love you list and had it framed and matted at Hobby Lobby. This was one that i got a few tears outta him and he’s SO not that “type of guy”.
I made a candlelit picnic in the backyard at night and cooked his favorite meal, BBQ ribs.
I made a coupon book for him – some we’re more sexy than others like Trying a new position or a sexy photo session 😀 and some low-key ones we’re: washing his car in my bikini, a day off where he can just watch sports/play video games, and letting him have the remote for the day.
Sometimes the smallest things will make my husband the happiest, like when he’s in the shower I’ll bring him clean clothes to put on or if i’m in the kitchen getting a drink i’ll bring him one even if he doesn’t ask.
Hopefully you’ll get some great ideas 🙂 I’ll be checking back to see what others say!