Help me word a difficult message

posted 1 month ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@kenobee: 

  1. Congratulations!!
  2. Please do not send the cards & envelopes! I know you don’t mean it this way, but that absolutely looks like a cash grab. A guestbook is a record of who attended, so you don’t actually need one. If you want to collect well-wishes, what about asking them to post it on your website and you can print them out if you want? In addition, people will probably still send you cards on their own — you could put these into an album or something. 
  3. That’s amazing if you’re already getting RSVPs for a wedding in December, invitations would have only gone out a couple weeks ago at most. At any rate, if your country is on lockdown, there’s not much more you need to say. “Covid restrictions have forced us to cancel the wedding.” That does not preclude you from still having your government-sanctioned private ceremony.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Most of the message I’d suggest would be the same either way, but please clarify for me whether you are uninviting people that were previously invited (people who could be there but are no longer welcome due to the COVID spread risk or space constraints to be COVID safe) or whether everyone previously invited is welcome but they cannot be there due to travel restrictions.

Post # 4
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Newbee

I personally would just say something along the lines of “due to unforseen circumstances related to covid, our wedding (or the wedding of kenobee and SO) has been canceled.  Thank you for your understanding”.  Simple and to the point. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Sorry that this is happening.  We were invited to a couple similar wedding situations, and I will tell you that no matter how you word it, everyone will understand.  So don’t worry about offending anyone. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee

<em style=”word-wrap: break-word;”>With an abundance of caution and care for our guests, we have decided to marry in a small intimate ceremony. We sincerely appreciate your love and support, and ask that you celebrate in your heart with best wishes from afar. We look forward to when we can be together again.

<em style=”word-wrap: break-word;”>With all our love, (your names)

  • This reply was modified 1 month, 1 week ago by sharpshooter.
Post # 8
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Honey bee

I found that online.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Just posting that I’d be ok getting the wording that sharpshooter posted.  Congrats! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

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@kenobee:  In that case, say this: “Due to COVID restrictions limiting weddings to 5 people, my fiance and I have decided to hold a small ceremony with only the bridal party and my parents in attendance.”

Then, if I was in this position, I would say “while the current restrictions do not allow the ceremony I originally envisioned, I still want you to see me get married.  Please watch the live stream I’ll be setting up.”  And then set one up.  You should want everyone who originally would be attending to still be there in whatever capacity they can be.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I like @sharpshooter’s suggestion. It also makes it clear that the ceremony is going ahead – telling people that it is ‘cancelled’ may leave them expecting that it will be rearranged for a future date.

If you are able, a livestream would be a nice way to include those who are unable to attend physically.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I love sharpshooter’s wording.

As for the prepaid envelope, I think it’s a lovely idea and as a guest I’d be thrilled to participate. I would hope most of your guests would be very understanding and eager to put a note in your “guestbook” vs jumping to criticize/assume the worst of a COVID couple and clutch their pearls at the thought this could be construed as a gift grab.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

If your about-to-be-univited guests don’t understand why you are doing this, THIS MANY months into a global pandemic, there are no magic words to get through to them. I understand you feeling sad and disappointed, but I wouldn’t over think the wording of your message. Your people love you and will get it. Be clear, be brief, and move on. 

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