Help me word a difficult message

posted 3 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
1523 posts
Bumble bee

I love the well wish card! I wouldn’t read money grabbing into thay at all. I hope you have a wonderful day and get lots of well wishes mailed back.


Post # 17
13930 posts
Honey Beekeeper

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@kenobee:  I’d put the emphasis on the circumstances, instead of the uninviting aspect.  For example,  “Due to Covid restrictions, the wedding reception of OP and OP’s fiance as previously planned has been cancelled. We will be married that day in a private ceremony.” Then you can add the bit about appreciating the love and support of family and friends. Put the emphasis on the positive instead of the negative. 

Sorry, I don’t like the envelope idea. I get what you are trying to do, and would play along as your guest, but soliciting sentiments of congratulations or good wishes from others seems a bit self serving to me and implies your guests would not have otherwise had the good manners to do so themselves. Also, you may not think it comes across as asking for a check, but it would to me. Despite what you say about letting people know you don’t want gifts, everyone knows that wedding gifts are always up to the giver. An envelope would seem like a none too subtle hint. 

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