(Closed) Help me write an awkward email…

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it sounds really good!  I think you are just overanalysing.  At least she knows that it is coming since she talked to her son about it.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think that your letter is so perfect!  You asked in a very polite way that doesn’t sound demanding at all…you show how grateful you are and acknowledge how generous it is…..send it! 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it sounds great.  Thats very sweet of her to offer!!!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Nice and polite!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I think it sounds great! 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OMG! We are in the same boat! I neeeed to know what our budget is and FH is totally not taking the reigns and asking his parents what they’ll contribute. It’s basically the same situation since FH has always been financially independant and has never need handouts. I was thinking maybe an email would work too but she doesn’t check her email often. Hmm! Anyway your email sounds great! It’s very polite!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m a MOB and if I received this e-mail from my future daughter in law I wouldn’t be offended or think it was weird or greedy.  You are asking in a tactful way what  she was considering in contributing to the wedding…so click ‘send’ and don’t worry about it!Laughing  Hopefully, you will get more help than you expected!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

agree with everyone here, excellent letter.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Your message sounds great!  Very straight forward and polite.  Have you considered maybe having a phone conversation with Future Mother-In-Law, though?  I’m wondering if maybe she can hear your enthusiasm about the venue, she’ll receive the message better?  I always worry about corresponding over the Internet about potentially touchy subjects, money especially.  Just a thought.  🙂  Good luck with it and please do know I think you did a fab job on composing your email!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with the pp who suggested calling vs. emailing if possible.  It s a great personal touch and the enthusiasm and sincerity will come across more so on the phone versus in an email.  If that isn’t an option, I’d go ahead and send the email.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Oh, I’d feel way too awkward saying this in person, so I say the email is perfect!

My Future Mother-In-Law is a little intimidating sometimes, though.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

She might be surprised hearing from you about this, since all the previous convos have been between her and her son…

Could you maybe draft the letter so that your Fiance could send it to his mom?  Money is so touchy… I’d hate for this to create tension between you and your FMIL!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah that’s pretty much perfectly written. You’re a great fiancee though… I’m pretty sure that I would force my guy to talk to his mom himself!

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