Post # 1
I want everyone’s help/opinion PLEASE!!
Do you think it’s possible to get the “this is THE ONE” dress feeling if you’ve already tried on like 50 dresses and everything’s “pretty” but nothing is ABSOLUTELY PERFECT!???
any helpful stories?? or should I suck it up and just buy one that looks pretty and nice??
Post # 3
Totally possible… I went through 50+ dresses before I stumbled across the right dress… I was exhausted and stressed myself out by continuing to look though… but when I saw myself in the mirror and in a photo, I felt this sigh of relief, and that’s how I knew. It wasn’t tears and a big moment of “yes!!”… it was more, “oh, this is different… I wouldn’t change one thing about this.”
I should add: I didn’t like it much on the hanger. It looked boring but I was desperate at that point, so I tried on almost everything in the shop and it was inthe line-up. Do not judge by the hanger!
Post # 4
ah great, thanks… i just keep over-analyzing EVERYTHING about every dress and nitpicking and second-guessing and I’m just a little worried that I’m too jaded from staring at dresses too long to like anything haha…..
Post # 5
I guess it is possible…but I would think that after seeing so many dresses that they all start to look the same. You might start to see fabrics,details,crystals etc instead of a whole picture. But I did see this one SYTTD where the girl tried on hundreds and then found the one! good luck to you!
Post # 6
I only had 2 appointments and thought I would like mermaids or fit and flares, and lace and satin and just didn’t – i felt like they were all wearing me. I tried on a lot of dresses in the 2 appointments – probably 20-30 – but the organza overlay, A-line dress with the embellished waist and sweetheard with ruching was perfect.
I had a smaller, butterflies, toes-off-the-ground feeling, not some huge, overwhelmed feeling when I realized it was the one. But it’s also really overhyped, the whole experience, and like you said, it IS stressful! Just remember to take some time off, even if it’s just a day, and do something for yourself, even if it’s just painting your toes and watching your favorite tv show. You will find a dress that makes you feel beautiful, don’t worry. Don’t feel like you have to have a “moment” – it may or may not come.
One of the best pieces of advice about wedding dresses was from a guy who was sitting across from a coworker and I on our way home from NYC. He had gotten married a few months before, and he said as we were looking at bridal magazines, “you know, as much as we want you to feel beautiful on your wedding day, trust me, every groom thinks that his bride is the most beautiful woman in the world, no matter what dress you are wearing.”
hang in there!
Post # 7
Yes, I think it can happen. I started off with an appointment at David’s (by myself, no less, as I live far from my closest friends/fam and love shopping solo sometimes to get a feel for things), but it gave me an idea of what shape I wanted and which flattered me. I was not reliant on other people’s opinions, I guess because I trust my own style judgement 🙂 I had been looking online at dresses for a looong time, am a generally positive person (but also overanalytical, like you), but I felt comfortable/confident knowing I’d find something special. Then I had this feeling about a dress I saw online (from a fellow Bee who did not wear it!) and could NOT stop thinking/dreaming of it! So, after many emails asking about every part of the dress and googling the heck out of it, I took the leap and bought it. it arrived yesterday, and I couldn’t be happer! (Although I know it was risky having never seen it.) I did not have a super-duper-overwhelmingly tearful feeling about my dress (and agree the need to have “that” feeling is sensationalized) but was sooo excited and just “knew” it was the one, and that I couldn’t/shouldn’t torture myself by looking at any others. Once you find one that is truly you, you will know, and then you can move on and get excited about how you will make it even more lovely! Shoes, accessories, sash, veli/hair clip etc etc… I would agree that after seeing over 50 dresses they might start to look the same. Take a day or two off from ANYTHING dress-related, then see what is really on your mind (one particular dress or style, maybe?) and it will work out. Good luck!