(Closed) Help!! MIL wants to change our wedding date!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m a teacher, and I don’t understand why the aunt can take a Thurs/Fri off but not a Monday. My school will let us take off whenever we want as long as we have personal days left, but I know not all districts are like that. Some districts don’t allow personal leave at all, and others don’t allow personal leave attached to weekends/holidays….but either way, she would be taking days off with a weekend.

I say stick to the date you have.


Post # 4
2287 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Your grandfather seems more important than an aunt that you rarely see. I would stick to your guns and keep the Sunday date. Maybe do an earlier ceremony and reception so that guests aen’t staying out until 10 pm would be a good compromise. I find it hard to believe that it would be easier for her to miss two days of work than one. That sounds like bull. Can you call the aunt to speak to her directly instead of going through his parents?

Post # 5
131 posts
Blushing bee

I wouldnot change a date for someone who I barely see. I think you should explain that you are changing the date due to sickness and that you are very sorry that mybe the new date is not working to this aunt but changing it again would cause a lot of hassle. 

Post # 6
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

it sounds very weird that the aunt will be able to take thurs/friday off (which is 2 days) than taking one day off (which is Monday)

I mean…you gotta do what you gotta do.  I won’t change it for someone you only see once a year, personally.


Post # 7
1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Try to sound as calm and collected as possible and say, “I’m sorry, but we tried to do what we can, but Friday won’t work. The wedding will be on Sunday, date and time. My grandfather is very special to me and I wouldn’t know what to do if he wasn’t able to enjoy our special day. I understand it will be difficult for other guests to come on a Sunday, but we’re still going to go ahead with having it on (repeat date and time). The save the dates will be sent out soon.”

Good luck to you. You just need to stand your ground, hun. It’s your wedding, it’s your grandfather, I’m pretty sure Mother-In-Law isn’t going to loose sleep for years at a time if your aunt can’t make it. It’s unfortunately one of the times when you have to be assertive and decisive OR ELSE SHE WILL WALK ALL OVER YOU.


Post # 8
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t do it! Keep your date!! If you give in she might push the issue on other things too! 

Post # 9
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m a teacher and see her point, but would stick to your guns anyway.

Post # 10
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@kitamad:  Agreed! I can maybe take a personal day off, but there would be no difference between taking a Monday and a Thursday/Friday.

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