(Closed) HELP! Minister problem!

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2369 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would just say due to budget concerns you decided to use someone in town but thanks for the consideration. Hope this isn’t too late.


Post # 4
2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Tell him you’ve changed your mind.  You don’t have to tell him why.  You can say it is for personal reasons that you’d rather not discuss.  Then, he can wonder if it was due to budget, him, or some other reason, without hurting his feelings.  However, I do suggest you let him know ASAP out of courtesy regarding his time and future plans.  

Post # 5
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I had to do the exact same thing (though our original minister was in state). We originally went with her (we will call her M1) because we really didn’t have any other options. Then I found out one of my favortie high school teachers (M2) performs weddings. So we have decided to switch.  I called to let M1 know that we would be switching. M1 became very upset saying we already paid her and that she canceled a trip to do this for us. We had her as invited to the reception also.  I told her she was still invited but it would mean a lot to me to have M2 do it.  After throwing a fit, it was done. You have to go with what you think is best.  We did not feel comfortable with M1, and changed it to M2.  It is your wedding day, do what you want.  But call them soon to let them know and just explain that you felt this new person was more of a match for you as a couple and feel more comfortable with them.  Just be prepared that they may have something to say back. Good luck!


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