Post # 1
Hi everyone! Okay well I originally thought it would be a good idea to get the minister that was a family friend for a long time (however we havnt seen him in years) to do the wedding to add that ‘something special’ and not just anyone feel. However after our first meeting on skype with him and my Fiance, it didnt go so well because we dont really look at things the same and it was more of a lecture and sort of rude than I’d wanted. Since then I have found someone else whom I am extrememly happy with to do the wedding!! HOWEVER NOW- I face having to let the other minister know why we havnt bought his plane tickets yet and that we decided not to use him. ANY advice on this topic would be greatly appreciated because I Have to do this ASAP! THanks girls!
Post # 3
I would just say due to budget concerns you decided to use someone in town but thanks for the consideration. Hope this isn’t too late.
Post # 4
Tell him you’ve changed your mind. You don’t have to tell him why. You can say it is for personal reasons that you’d rather not discuss. Then, he can wonder if it was due to budget, him, or some other reason, without hurting his feelings. However, I do suggest you let him know ASAP out of courtesy regarding his time and future plans.
Post # 5
I had to do the exact same thing (though our original minister was in state). We originally went with her (we will call her M1) because we really didn’t have any other options. Then I found out one of my favortie high school teachers (M2) performs weddings. So we have decided to switch. I called to let M1 know that we would be switching. M1 became very upset saying we already paid her and that she canceled a trip to do this for us. We had her as invited to the reception also. I told her she was still invited but it would mean a lot to me to have M2 do it. After throwing a fit, it was done. You have to go with what you think is best. We did not feel comfortable with M1, and changed it to M2. It is your wedding day, do what you want. But call them soon to let them know and just explain that you felt this new person was more of a match for you as a couple and feel more comfortable with them. Just be prepared that they may have something to say back. Good luck!