Post # 1
Hi everyone. I have a problem and I need some advice! I found my dress a couple weeks ago! Which of course is so exciting – however, in all the excitement, we didn’t stop to think one of our purchases through. The saleslady (who was also the owner of the shop) put a belt on me that really sent the dress over the top. It sold me on the dress and my mom and sisters were oohing and ahhing. We bought the belt with the dress. The belt was $500. Yes, $500!!!! I know. The excitement just overrode common sense and honestly I hadn’t really looked at belts and sashes so I didn’t know how much they were. Now I know that I can get one significantly cheaper and it almost makes me sick to think of the money I could have saved had I just said no to that belt and looked elsewhere for one. Unfortunately, all sales are final at this shop (which may be the norm at Bridal shops, I don’t know!) and it does state this on the receipt.
ANYway, to top it all off, my dress is ivory lace over a light gold/champagne satin. The belt is silver. AND one of my colors in my wedding is gold. I’ll have gold chiviari chairs and everything. I’ve been reading how you’re supposed to pair yellow gold or blush/rose gold (any warmer tone really) with champagne because it brings out the warmth and just looks better. Is this true? I’m attaching a pic of my dress and belt. Can you guys tell me if it looks ok? Or share your thoughts on it? AND would the silver clash with the gold of my decor? My mom says I’m seperate from my decorations so it doesn’t matter, but I don’t want to look out of place or clash.
Since the belt is $500 and I can’t take it back, the smartest thing money-wise would be to wear it. However, I think it would be crazy for me to wear something that I’m just not crazy about or not confident about. Ya know? Or, worst case scenario, just looks awful.
Help!!! Thank you in advance for any thoughts or suggestions!
Post # 2
you are WAY overthinking this, girl. the belt looks beautiful with the dress, and you’re not expected to match the chairs. that would be bizarre.
Post # 3
It looks great to me!
If you aren’t happy though there’s no harm in asking if you can exchange the belt or return it for store credit. The worst that can happen is they say no.
Post # 4
I think it looks great! If it makes you feel any better, one of my wedding colors is gold, my dress is also ivory/champagne, and all my jewelry is silver. So I don’t think there’s any problem with your belt!
Post # 5
My dress is ivory over champagne with silver beading. I added a silver belt and I’ll be wearing silver jewelry. My colors are gray, lilac/lavender, peach, and gold.
I over thought this for a looooong time, but the gold should be fine. Don’t feel guilty over the belt situation! I kind of did the same thing, and if you can’t return it you may as well wear it. And if it helped you fall in love with your overall look..then I don’t see anything wrong with it. If you’re unhappy ask about a refund/store credit or just resell it.
As far as Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, do whatever you want. It definitely doesn’t have to be a pink color. I personally hated champagne and blush/pink because they’re too close in color so it lacks a contrast. And blush tends to wash people out (some of my BMs are pale anyways). What helped me pick colors (I went through every single color before deciding) was to hold up dresses as I was in my wedding dress and decide from there. But blush is a popular color combo with champagne, so it would be fine if that’s what you’d want! It’d be very romantic with gold 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
Honestly, the belt/dress combo look beautiful! Who is the belt by? It looks pretty similar to mine! Mine was Essense of Australia.
If you decide in the near future that you really just can’t stand the belt you can try to sell it online new with tags but realize that you may loose some of that money- and you would still have to get another belt. You could end up saving $100…. or $300 there’s no guarantee.
I agree with your mom… the bride doesn’t have to match the chairs- so don’t over think it. I don’t even think you need to perfectly match your bridesmaids to be honest! I was in all silver jewelry and I think both of my girls went with gold? The photos look just as nice.
THAT being said, I think you need to decide how you want to look on your wedding day. I always had a clear goal of the accessories/style feel I wanted to have. If you want to wear gold jewelry then maybe swapping the belt would be worth it… if you want to wear silver then you’ll be fine. While the dress may have champagne hues to it, it’s still going to look white/ivory to people. Very few people in my opinion can pull off the multiple metals look on their wedding day that’s why I say pick one and stick with it… and no, everything doesn’t need to match your engagement/wedding band metal set.
Just evaluate YOU and does this dress/belt combo look like the best you? Will friends say that looks you or do you look different? If the belt is something super weird for you, consider selling it. If friends LOVE it for you then maybe they see you differently than you see yourself. I think women should just look like the best versions of themselves on their wedding day- not anyone else. So be proud in what you pick or change it up.
Post # 7
Why would you want to coordinate with the chairs? You are soooooooooooooooooooooooo overthinking! Wear what you love!
Post # 8
THANK YOU ladies! I feel so much better now! You guys have kind of cinched it for me – I know now that I am overreacting. lol And that it will not clash and I will not look out of place. Both of my sisters and my mom said the sames things you guys said so I’m going to take it to heart now. I’m convinced!
Thanks again for making me feel better about it, everyone, and for sharing your thoughts and ideas with me.
@tallahasseelassie: It’s by “bling!”. I believe it’s a Canadian company. It’s a stunning belt in person.
Post # 9
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
Ohh ok then they aren’t the same but similar in shape and design… mine was also crazy expensive but for 360 degrees of sparkle I look back and realize it was worth it!