Post # 1
I’ll try to make this short as possible. I was married 3 years ago and my sister and mother were both a nightmare throughout the entire thing. My sister is now getting married this coming May in a destintation resort. I am her Maid of Honor. Initially, she asked for my help in planning her wedding which turned into me acting as her personal assistant. She called one day saying how much she hates her wedding dress (the day of my daughter’s 1 year old birthday party) and how it is my fault she bought it becuase I pressured her into it. Something I certianly did not do. She decided that she would toss out the $1100 for that dress and buy a new one. Ok, fine, your money. I had a conversation with her about being her ‘personal assistant’ and the way she was treating me, which did not go well at all. Ended with her calling me names and plain freaking out on me.
She called a week or two later and left a voicemail apologizing. At the time, my husband was out of town and I was at home dealing with a 13 month old that had the flu and ear infection while trying to work my regular full time job from the house. Unfortuntaley, I did not have time to call her back and rehash the entire issue. So, that led to her saying my daughter is being used as an excuse for not calling her. That was not the case at all and I was trying to explain that I would call her when I could get more than 2 hours of sleep and keep a kid from throwing up on me for more than 10 minutes.
Then days later, I found out from a facebook post that she has added someone new to her wedding party as a bridesmaid. The person she added is one she was complaining about who had initially invited herself to the wedding. Everyone I spoke to was being a little suspecious about it and kept changing the subject. So I called and asked her if I had been replaced in the wedding. That sparked another dramatic outburst ending with her saying “I don’t want to see your face there” and you are kicked out basiclly.
Here is the problem. She is being married in a resort that we have paid over $4000 for the stay, flights and meal plan. Another $175 paid for my dress and $60 for my daughter’s as she was the flower girl. I received a call from the travel agent saying her fiance called her to cancel my room. I have non refundable tickets and now penalty fees from the resort from him canceling us though it was paid already since it is so close to the wedding if I confirm the cancelation.
I am fine with not being in the wedding, but is it unreasonable to make a family vacation out of it since we have already paid for the trip? Also, is it unreasonable to ask her to pick up the tab for the dresses, shoes, etc. since she is the one asking me not to be in the wedding after making these purchases?
Any help would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I would totally take the vacation still. Your sister would drive me nuts i couldn’t imagine if my sisters were like that. How did her fiance cancel your room if you paid for it?
Post # 4
um, yeah,, I would def make this a vacation. . .i doubt she i going to pay you back for the dresses, but you could certainly ask
Post # 5
Im sorry you are going thru this. Is her lost I know is hard I have 3 sisters and they were going to be my bridesmaid. I even paid for my sister to come from Mexico then they got in a big fight with my now husband. They will never admit they were in the wrong the night before the wedding he called them to try to fix things. It was no good so I got married and could not belive that not my mom, dad or any of my sisters went. To this date is been a year and it hurts alot but I have learn that was their choice.
I don’t see anything wrong with make the best of it and go on vacation with your family after all is paid for. Can you change the date by any chance?
Post # 6
Take the vacation for sure. I doubt you’ll get money back for the dresses, but it’s worth a try. Plus you never know if she’ll come to her senses and all of a sudden want you there.
Post # 7
If everything is paid for, and you can’t get a refund…. go on vacation! Nobody in their right mind would fault you for that. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this- it does sound like your sister is being pretty terrible.
Just curious, if you and your hubs paid for everything yourselves, how does your sister’s fiance have any right to call and cancel your room?
Post # 8
Definitely take a vacation. What do your parents have to say about all of this? Now I don’t have a sister, only brothers, and if one of them pulled anything like this my Mom would have ripped them a new asshole, despite the fact that we’re all grown. She wouldn’t tolerate that sort of disrespect going on in her family.
If what you said is true and this isn’t just another troll post then your sister is a huge bitch, she won’t reimburse you for anything, and you should just go on your vacation and pretend her stupid bridezilla wedding isn’t happening at the same time.
Post # 9
I would go, relax and work on my tan with a Margirita in my hand. You can not go and lose all of that money just because of her being a bridezilla.
Post # 10
WOW! That is horrible! Take the vacatoion! and yea, she can pick up the tab!
Post # 11
You should try and see if you can change the resort to one of the sister resorts. Like transfer your stay to somewhere nearby if possible – just to get away from her. But she can’t cancel your room!
Post # 12
I agree.Try and go to another sister resort – ENJOY your vacation with your H and baby.
OP I think your sister is being a ridiculous brat. Like the bees on here ALWAYS say – no one is as excited about your wedding, no one wants to be blamed for something (the dress thing) and yeah babies are WAY more important than a wedding, sorry. Jeez.Sorry your sister is being this way, but I sort of doubt this is an isolated incident. If my sister did that, she would get an “EXCUSE me?” from me.
And I second the question – what the heck does your mother or other family members think about her behavior and actions?
Post # 13
TAKE THE VACATION…..SOUNDS LIKE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY DESERVE IT HAVE FUN
Post # 14
My mother keeps saying, “Well, she is stressed and I’m sure she doesn’t mean it. You don’t need to be hard on her.”. My dad just says well she is the baby. To me, she is the way she is becuase of them and no accountability. They are no help.
Post # 15
The travel agent called and said that he wanted to cancel our room becuase it was under their wedding grouping. Because we just paid the balance on the room/trip, she said they cannot technically cancel it unless we confirm it. Nice try, kind of.
I checked with the resort and we cannot book at a sister resort. I’m hoping the resort is big enough that we can avoid paths.
Post # 16
I completely understand that my parents specialy my mom was the same way they could not do anything wrong in tgere eyes. Only me since I am the oldest I really hope things get better if thet don’t like I said is her lost. Keep you head up!