- 8 years ago
Starting from the beginning!! I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in an upcoming wedding on Feb 13 2011. The Bride is my VERY best friend and I love her to death but honest to goodness I am about ready to scream!!! First of all… we picked out a dress for all of us girls… a simple black dress very inexpensive… She has a Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man whose mother told us she would be a size 9…turns out shes a size 15!! so now we cant get the dress in the right sixe for the Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man but I was able to find one VERY close. The bride said ok and we decided to stick with the black dresses. I then threw her a bridal shower. I stupidly spent $900 on the shower b/c there were suppose to be 30 guests attending… Only 12 showed!! Then the bride decided she wanted to change the dress again and then she went back to the black dress and now again with the changing it!!!! The most recent of which is for a $200 dress!!!! And she just told me this 3 days ago!!! her wedding is VERY soon so we need to get our dresses tomorrow…well… I dont have $200 to come up with in 4 days! So I asked her when we need to order it by and she said she would help pay. I dont want her to help so I am going to figure out a way to come up with the money.
Now I’m working on planning the bachelorette party… I was planning to get a hotel room that we can all pitch in on so I emailed the BMs and told them the different hotel options and prices and mentioned that after the amount of money I spent on the shower I would like to go as inexpensive as possible on the Bachelorette Party. I did not mean to say the party as a whole but before anything could even get a chance to clarify one of the BMs told the bride that I said I didnt want to spend much on the prty b/c I spent too much on the shower… then the bride emails me and says so & so told her that and that the bride is not going to give me $300 the next time she sees me!!! UGH!!! I do not want her money!!! I just wanted ideas and since we dont know how many girls are staying I want o get the best deal for our money!!!
I know that being in a wedding costs a lot of money and I expected to spend about $1000. But that was also under the impression that we already had our $20 dress. Now I have to throw a Bach Party and buy a $200 dress!! I swear this is the most indecisive bride ever!!! Plus I am soo angry at the other Bridesmaid or Best Man right now that I dont even know what to do or say to her!! You DO NOT EVER tell the bride how much money you have spent or that you have soent a lot!!! Its the expression on her face that matters!!! Please help!! What does everyone think I should do and say to the bride???