(Closed) HELP!!!… MOH ordered her dress without me seeing it on her!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KatNYC2011:  +1

It does still sound like a case of miscommunication.  Or she just doesn’t have time to make several appointments and try on dozens of dresses and just picked one of the ones you sent.  Personally, it sounds exhausting to be asked to try on several dresses, take pictures, report back, repeat, then go back and get measured and make a deposit.

I think what you can do now is either:

1. See if she can transfer that deposit to another dress

2. Reimburse her for the deposit and pick another dress

3. Let her keep the dress she she already picked

Also, maybe the dress will look better after alterations?  Those always help!

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

maybe she loves how she looks and feels in it And thought you were asking her to go pick one of the dresses and send a pic of the one she picked?

im sure you can work it out with her, I sounds like just miscommunication.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see a problem… they’re almost exactly the same dress.  She probably picked it because it was one of your suggestions and it looks just like the bridesmaid dresses.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it looks perfectly fine!   By the sounds of it I was expecting something ALOT worse

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@LeiLei43:  Those dresses look fine next to eachother.

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think those dresses look great together.

Also, having Maid/Matron of Honor in a slightly different fabric sets her apart from the BMs in a nice way I think. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding several years ago where the Maid/Matron of Honor dress fabric was different from the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress fabric and it looked really nice and showed the Maid/Matron of Honor off as “special” in a way.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh hey!  I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding in a few weeks and I’m actually wearing the same dress as your Maid/Matron of Honor (but in green).  It’s actually a pretty great dress (it’s comfy and has pockets!), but it does fit a bit funny on top and will most likely need alterations to get it to look right.  Is that the problem?  The other BMs in the wedding have been saying the same thing too.

Anyway, I honestly think those two dresses will look great together.  Since it’s your Maid/Matron of Honor in the different dress, it will be ok that the material is different.  And since the dresses are so similar that the difference in material might be a good thing otherwise she wouldn’t stand out at all.  I wouldn’t worry about it!

 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You have to remember that SHE is the one wearing this dress and it needs to be one that she feels comfortable in. Also, if the dress is one of the ones that you sent her to try on, and you had already known that the bridesmaid dresses were satin, then how is that her fault that they clash? Unless I misunderstood somewhere that this isn’t the case. 

ETA: If it’s really really bothering you since it is your wedding and I can understand you wanting everything to be perfect, then you should just tell her the truth and blame it on yourself. Just say I can’t believe that I thought that dress would match the BMs dresses, I don’t know what I was thinking. Then ask her to return and let her know you’re gonna keep looking for other dresses. I mean, it’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, someone close to you who you love and she loves you, she should understand and not throw a hissy fit. Hopefully. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

if you sent her a couple of dresses that you liked, she probably assumed you wanted her to pick one of them and get it (that’s what i would have assumed).

Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

How does she usually feel about shopping? I know the propect of having to go to a salon by myself to try on bridesmaids dresses and take photos several times would be completely unappealing to me.

I’d be a bit miffed to be asked to go, try on stuff, take photos and wait for instruction to go back and do it all over again.

It is one thing if you are there with the bride/friends, but it is a completely different animal if you have to do it alone. Honestly, I’d want to pick one and get it over with.

Also, have you been to the salon before? Some salons give very hard sells and it can be really hard to just walk away and say you’ll be coming back to try on again at a later date. She may have beem pressured to buy by the staff.

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