(Closed) HELP!!!… MOH ordered her dress without me seeing it on her!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
3076 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The good news is your Maid/Matron of Honor has a dress.  She probably feels comfortable in it.  If she is the one paying for it and she picked one of the dresses you picked out,  I don’t see the big deal.  She picked out a beautiful dress and it will look pretty next to your girls.

Post # 33
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Sounds like it was just a case of miscommunication. Did she take pictures in all of the dresses? If so, how does she feel about the one you like best? Have you inquired if the store would allow an exchange?

Looking at the photos, I think it’s a nice, subtle difference. I’m suprised the salon near you said the dresses would look “horrible” next to each other. People look at the Maid/Matron of Honor for about 5 seconds, then turn their attention back to the bride.

Not every aspect of your wedding is going to be perfect- you are going to be setting yourself up for so much stress. If you can let this “issue” go, it might help with some of the smaller “hiccups” down the road.

She just picked the dress she did because she liked it.”- And if you ask her to change it, there may be more stress. So the question is- how much will this dress bother you?

Post # 34
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Okay, I’m confused as to why people are confused.

OP has been asking her Maid/Matron of Honor to go try on dresses for a while now. Not everyone finds their dress the first time. OP sends her Maid/Matron of Honor photos of dresses that she wants her to try on, as well as a photo of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that they’ve already chosen. Maid/Matron of Honor responded with photos of her face and bust, and that she’d purchased a dress that the bride a) hadn’t seen, and b) hadn’t approved.

Post # 35
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Normally the bridesmaid is supposed to look a little bit different ๐Ÿ™‚ I think that a different material will work nicely. As for them clasing horribly i just dont think that is so. Also, if all of your dresses were satin, and that is what you wanted, you should have stressed that to her before she went shopping. I know that Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping can be a hassle (took MONTHS to concrete dresses for my girls) but i think that they look nice! If nothing else, then call your Maid/Matron of Honor, express that to her and maybe you can meet up one weekend by either you traveling to her or vice versa and make a day out of trying on dresses together!

good luck

Post # 36
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Can you buy something (a belt) in the bridesmaids black color to use on the Maid/Matron of Honor dress? That might help them to tie together a little better. Personally, I love her dress and the little details really do matter.


Also, I know you said that the dress makes her look “okay” but I thought you only saw the top? Maybe the bottom is better? I know I wouldnt spend money on a dress I didnt feel good in.. so maybe she feels amazing and that will radiate more then a dress that might look pretty but not feel right. 

Post # 40
986 posts
Busy bee

I think they look fine next to each other! Maybe not exactly what I would have chosen, but they definitely aren’t as horrible as I was picturing them to be. Just consider this a lesson learned for future instances where you need her to purchase something. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 41
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Is the dress DB? My cousin’s bridesmaids wore that dress and it looked awesome. I think those two dresses look nice next to each other.

Post # 43
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My suggestion is to relax!

If she feels good in it then who cares!

My colours were Red & Black and my Maid/Matron of Honor chose a charcoal grey dress and it looked great on her so don’t fall into the Bridezilla trap as trust me it will not matter on the day of (I got married on Saturday so I’m speaking from recent experience).

Post # 45
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it will be fine.  I actually kind of like it– like it starts darkest with the bridesmaids and then transitions with the Maid/Matron of Honor in grey to you in white.

I spent days angsting over if the blue of the bridesmaid dresses would not match the blue of the table cloths, and while I think it will, if it doesn’t, I’m sure no one else will notice.

The closer you get, the less you care, don’t let this stress you!

Post # 46
286 posts
Helper bee

Honestly, regardless of miscommunication or not, no maid of honor should ever purchase a dress without the “go ahead” from the bride.

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