Post # 32
The good news is your Maid/Matron of Honor has a dress. She probably feels comfortable in it. If she is the one paying for it and she picked one of the dresses you picked out, I don’t see the big deal. She picked out a beautiful dress and it will look pretty next to your girls.
Post # 33
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Sounds like it was just a case of miscommunication. Did she take pictures in all of the dresses? If so, how does she feel about the one you like best? Have you inquired if the store would allow an exchange?
Looking at the photos, I think it’s a nice, subtle difference. I’m suprised the salon near you said the dresses would look “horrible” next to each other. People look at the Maid/Matron of Honor for about 5 seconds, then turn their attention back to the bride.
Not every aspect of your wedding is going to be perfect- you are going to be setting yourself up for so much stress. If you can let this “issue” go, it might help with some of the smaller “hiccups” down the road.
“She just picked the dress she did because she liked it.”- And if you ask her to change it, there may be more stress. So the question is- how much will this dress bother you?
Post # 34
Okay, I’m confused as to why people are confused.
OP has been asking her Maid/Matron of Honor to go try on dresses for a while now. Not everyone finds their dress the first time. OP sends her Maid/Matron of Honor photos of dresses that she wants her to try on, as well as a photo of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that they’ve already chosen. Maid/Matron of Honor responded with photos of her face and bust, and that she’d purchased a dress that the bride a) hadn’t seen, and b) hadn’t approved.
Post # 35
Normally the bridesmaid is supposed to look a little bit different 🙂 I think that a different material will work nicely. As for them clasing horribly i just dont think that is so. Also, if all of your dresses were satin, and that is what you wanted, you should have stressed that to her before she went shopping. I know that Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping can be a hassle (took MONTHS to concrete dresses for my girls) but i think that they look nice! If nothing else, then call your Maid/Matron of Honor, express that to her and maybe you can meet up one weekend by either you traveling to her or vice versa and make a day out of trying on dresses together!
Post # 36
Can you buy something (a belt) in the bridesmaids black color to use on the Maid/Matron of Honor dress? That might help them to tie together a little better. Personally, I love her dress and the little details really do matter.
Also, I know you said that the dress makes her look “okay” but I thought you only saw the top? Maybe the bottom is better? I know I wouldnt spend money on a dress I didnt feel good in.. so maybe she feels amazing and that will radiate more then a dress that might look pretty but not feel right.
Post # 37
@Vorpalette that is exactly what happened… Thanks! 🙂
Post # 38
@ Excited to Bee … Yep have only seen the “top” of the dress… and that’s the part I am saying looks “okay”.
Post # 39
I guess it’s just hard because I have seen my 4 bridesmaids in their dress before we decided to go with that dress and my Maid/Matron of Honor had opportunity to come here and try on dresses but chose to do something else instead. I would have loved to have been able to go there and dress shop with her but all my budget right now is going towrds the wedding… I do not have the funds to make it 13 hours away for a shopping trip.
Post # 40
I think they look fine next to each other! Maybe not exactly what I would have chosen, but they definitely aren’t as horrible as I was picturing them to be. Just consider this a lesson learned for future instances where you need her to purchase something. 🙂
Post # 41
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Is the dress DB? My cousin’s bridesmaids wore that dress and it looked awesome. I think those two dresses look nice next to each other.
Post # 42
@missmorganista No they are both Alfred Angelo… but I think I know what DB dress you are talking about and they are very similar. Thanks for mentioning that you saw the dresses on other bridesmaids and that they looked awesome… Helps me feel a little more at ease. 🙂
Post # 43
My suggestion is to relax!
If she feels good in it then who cares!
My colours were Red & Black and my Maid/Matron of Honor chose a charcoal grey dress and it looked great on her so don’t fall into the Bridezilla trap as trust me it will not matter on the day of (I got married on Saturday so I’m speaking from recent experience).
Post # 44
@MrsN2Be Thanks… I am definitely trying to relax and haven’t said anything to her about my apprehensions of her dress choice as of yet… venting it here helped a whole lot and everyones replies have helped also. I always appreciate others opinions.
Post # 45
I think it will be fine. I actually kind of like it– like it starts darkest with the bridesmaids and then transitions with the Maid/Matron of Honor in grey to you in white.
I spent days angsting over if the blue of the bridesmaid dresses would not match the blue of the table cloths, and while I think it will, if it doesn’t, I’m sure no one else will notice.
The closer you get, the less you care, don’t let this stress you!
Post # 46
Honestly, regardless of miscommunication or not, no maid of honor should ever purchase a dress without the “go ahead” from the bride.