(Closed) Help MOTHER IN LAW advice needed

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2389 posts
Buzzing bee

Can you just explain it to her how you did here? Mention that you’ve done all of the normal places and really want to do this. Say you understand if it might cost a bit more than they expected. Maybe mention if they’re more comfortable with a set dollar amount? 

Post # 4
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If your parents said they will cover what Future Mother-In-Law won’t cover…why even tell her? What I mean is, why does she need to know the exact invoice and that your parents will cover the additional costs? She pays for what she thinks is your entire honeymoon, she’s happy. Your parents help out, you are happy. Easy as pie? 🙂

Post # 5
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would have your Fiance talk to her, get a solid number from her that she is comfortable contributing and make up the difference yourselves.

Just have him explain to her that you both are so grateful for her offer. She might think a “honeymoon” is somewhere close, not a trip around Europe and it’s not fair to expect her to foot the bill for that.

Post # 6
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I would have your fiance sit down with his parents and get them to give you a budget.  Have him stress how greatful you both are that they are willing to do this for you and that you both would just feel more comfortable if they would give you some guidelines as far as what they are willing to spend.

Post # 7
46332 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PinkPinstripes: agreed. Havbe your Fiance ask her what she would like to contribute to a honeymoon. He can explain that you both have decided on Europe and that you will use her gift to provide the honeymoon of both of your dreams.

Post # 8
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would agree that this is your Fiancé’s responsibility to take on.  Any financial conversations taking place with in-laws should include the spouse – even better if it’s the spouse only! lol

She may be uncomfortable discussing her budget in front of you – so ask your FH to talk to her privately and get a firm number.  Tell him he can’t leave until he at least has a ballpark!

Post # 9
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think the best thing to to d o is to sit down with her and your Fi and explain everything so she knows where you are coming from. be honest with her and let her know that whatever she was planning on is fine and she dosent haveto pay for it all…

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