Post # 1
I really need your advice on this one please help me. For my wedding we are going the traditional route and my parents will be footing the bill. My Fiance family isn’t that big on the tradition part of things for the wedding, but I am very thankful that my Fiance mom and dad have decided to pay for the rehearsal dinner and our HONEYMOON. And this is where things get sticky. Growing up my dad worked for the airlines, so I was lucky enough to travel almost everywhere in the US, this included Hawaii and Puerto-Rico also, so naturally I’m not too interested in going to these places for my honeymoon. My heart is set on going to Paris and Greece, but I do feel a little awkward for some reason. My Fiance mom did ask where we wanted to go and I said it has to be out of the country (not realizing I may have sounded a little caddy) My Fiance asked her what was our budget for the honey moon and she didn’t really answer the question. She just said well where are yall going? Sooooooo I’m really confused. I was able to build a honeymoon package on europeandestinations.com and the total came to about 4500. And I took off the extra extras that I really wanted for that price. But I don’t know if this is too much to ask her to pay. I told my mom and dad about the situation and they are willing to pay for whatever she won’t foot, but I don’t know if she will feel like I’m stepping on her toes with that one. IDK I’m just sooooooo confused. Bees please offer me some advice so I can make the right decision without seeming rude or spoiled.
Post # 3
Can you just explain it to her how you did here? Mention that you’ve done all of the normal places and really want to do this. Say you understand if it might cost a bit more than they expected. Maybe mention if they’re more comfortable with a set dollar amount?
Post # 4
If your parents said they will cover what Future Mother-In-Law won’t cover…why even tell her? What I mean is, why does she need to know the exact invoice and that your parents will cover the additional costs? She pays for what she thinks is your entire honeymoon, she’s happy. Your parents help out, you are happy. Easy as pie? 🙂
Post # 5
I would have your Fiance talk to her, get a solid number from her that she is comfortable contributing and make up the difference yourselves.
Just have him explain to her that you both are so grateful for her offer. She might think a “honeymoon” is somewhere close, not a trip around Europe and it’s not fair to expect her to foot the bill for that.
Post # 6
I would have your fiance sit down with his parents and get them to give you a budget. Have him stress how greatful you both are that they are willing to do this for you and that you both would just feel more comfortable if they would give you some guidelines as far as what they are willing to spend.
Post # 7
@PinkPinstripes: agreed. Havbe your Fiance ask her what she would like to contribute to a honeymoon. He can explain that you both have decided on Europe and that you will use her gift to provide the honeymoon of both of your dreams.
Post # 8
I would agree that this is your Fiancé’s responsibility to take on. Any financial conversations taking place with in-laws should include the spouse – even better if it’s the spouse only! lol
She may be uncomfortable discussing her budget in front of you – so ask your FH to talk to her privately and get a firm number. Tell him he can’t leave until he at least has a ballpark!
Post # 9
I think the best thing to to d o is to sit down with her and your Fi and explain everything so she knows where you are coming from. be honest with her and let her know that whatever she was planning on is fine and she dosent haveto pay for it all…