(Closed) Help my budget is getting outta control!!!!

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
2765 posts
Sugar bee

How can the videographer just raise their rates – is that not covered in the contract?  If there’s no contract, maybe you can cancel the videographer?

Are there any vendors or services that you can cut?

Post # 4
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

can you just be firm with people and say "no"? Or change the food to be less expensive? ((hugs))

Post # 6
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree with vistagirl–can you just tell the people who are adding guests no? Fiance and I have been telling people who add guests that weren’t invited "NO" but in a very nice way. Some people like it and some people don’t, but it’s not their wedding, it’s yours!

You can probably find alterations cheaper in NYC–if you want to go that route–
Do you have a friend or family member that can do nice hairstyles? Doesn’t have to be someone professional, but there’s got to be someone–ask them for help and save the money on hair. What kind of transportation to the church? Do something cheaper. Find a diff videographer, the price shouldn’t have changed.


Post # 8
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


Awwww, try not to stress so much.  Try to think of it as not more money spent, but more company to celebrate the big day with.  Since you haven’t signed a contract, then I’d say forego the videographer.  Maybe you can have one of your friends videotape everything.  Are there any other parts of the reception that you could cut out to bring down the per person cost (e.g. not have favors, DIY centerpieces, bake your own cake (or cupcakes!)? 

Good luck with everything!

Post # 10
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I get that you’re being frugal, but you are also letting people walk all over you! It’s totally ok to say you cannot afford something.

Knmow the phrase, "give a mouse a crumb, he wants a cookie?" well that’s what’s going on. And as far as your videographer, that’s BULL. He should have had a contract with you, but now you’re stuck so if you want one, basically you HAVE to pay the money.

You can either say no, or you can accept the fact that you’ll be paying extra money for these guests. Who do they think they are, inviting additional people anyways?! Can’t you tell them that your venue only holds X amount of people TOPS?! You have to find a gracious way to tell your guests this, or accept the fact that you’ll be paying a lot of money for them to eat. Can you scale back any aspect of the wedding like serving no appetizers, etc?

I hear ya on the growing budget….ours was 15 and we hit 20.  

Post # 12
38 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

How much are you spending on Food and Drink? That seems like it must be the majority of your budget based on what you listed. If you want to stay on budget that is where cuts can be made.

People are bound to change their minds about coming last minute and I almost never hear of a wedding where invited guest aren’t tacking on extra uninvited friends and family. This just has to be expected to a degree.

If you are committed to your budget, you can do it. Take off your "it’s my special day"-tiara. Put on your business attitude and get it straightened out asap. Weddings are big business and contracts should be negotiated as such. Make deals where possible, be firm with guests where necessary, and cut extras.

It’s one day and in the end it will be a very special day either way. You need to decide now if it will be a better memory for you if you spend the extra money and deal with the debts or make the painful cuts and start married life without the money worries.

Post # 14
5 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

I agree that the videographer needs to go. Even though this is risky, you could wait as the date gets closer to get another one. This is what I did with my photographer (our wedding is in July). I actually found a professional photographer looking to get into the wedding business and has agreed to do our wedding for free to get experience with doing a wedding all b/c our wedding was sooner. This way the potential videographers are desperate for your business (at least this is what I read in a book) and they will take you a lot more serious.

Post # 15
8 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

is anyone else stressing out about expenses? or am I the only one hyperventilating


No dear, you’re not the only one.. I’m really stressed. My personal budget is completely out of control, my money disapeared.. I had to spend some money from my wedding savings because I had a lot of non-wedding things to pay, such as uni fees, credit cards, etc.

Anyway, I think I’m doing the right thing, I’m trying to pay my personal debts first. I have no more outgoings to cut, so I’m trying to get some part-time job on the weekends.

Guest list is a big deal for most of the brides. But is the best place for you to save money. It’s better to reduce the guest list then reducing the quality of your reception. Anyway, here in Brazil we always count with a 10% no-show rate, even when we hire an RSVP. Have you considered that?






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