Post # 151
I’ve hestitated to comment because this thread got so heated so quickly – but my first two thoughts were – 1) perhaps she’s improperly using a tampon or menstral cup and is leaking but doesn’t know how to ask for support 2) I was wondering how regular her period is. I’ve been super irregular my whole life and with in the not knowing that your period is coming, and when i was young i didn’t always associate dampness with a period, so i’d go through the day on my period without actually recognizing it until i went to the bathroom later in the day or I was unfortunately stained through. Is she soiled through throughout her cycle or is it like one day each cycle?
Post # 152
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Very good point. I forgot to add, I have never felt cramps during my periods. Ever AND I’m irregular to boot, so when I get my period I have NO prior knowledge except the time I go to the bathroom and bam, there’s blood.
Does your daughter feel cramps before or even during her period? She could be like me where cramps aren’t a symptom to our periods. I know it’s a blessing to some, but it sucks never knowing you’re on your period unless you happen to go to the bathroom. So be sure to ask that too when you sit her down for a talk!
Post # 153
“Something about the “dirty girl” phrasing makes it sound like OP thinks this is an intrinsic character trait of her daughter, and that’s the message that bothers me.”
When parents get frustrated and say something like this, it usually is NOT because they think this is an “intrinisic character trait” They are hoping that the child won’t want to be known as a “dirty girl” or whatever and will change their behavior. The problem is that children and preteens, with their developing brains, are the ones who often hear such comments as a reflection of what they are intrinisically.