(Closed) Help! My Dress doesn’t match our “tone”.

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think its your day and you should wear whatever you want. I’m also having a small wedding in Vegas and purchased a very elegant dress, because I love it and feel fantastic in it. At the end of the day the way you feel in your dress is what matters. Go for it and Enjoy it πŸ™‚

Post # 5
1555 posts
Bumble bee

You love the dress, you can afford the dress, the dress makes you happy. Done and done. Future Mother-In-Law can say what she wants, but it’s not her wedding. So tell her that while you appreciate her opinion, you would also appreciate it if she would can it! πŸ˜€  OK, maybe don’t say that, but you get the point!

Post # 6
1209 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Belle2Be: We’re going for the same sort of thing at our wedding (non-formal, outdoor wedding, etc.) and my dress is more formal than our venue, but I don’t care one bit!! I am absolutely in love with it and I honestly don’t think anyone will be thinking about how my dress doesn’t match the venue well enough πŸ™‚

I don’t think it matters as long as you love your dress πŸ™‚

Post # 7
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had this same problem. I had a very casual backyard wedding, and my dress was lace. It looked fine, don’t worry. Here are some pictures that show the short, casual dresses everyone else wore. 

Post # 8
39 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

My Fiance and I are casual people and our venue is in between fancy and casual (at least I think so). I’m doing more casual things like wear flip flops or Nike shoes, and having small/simple bouquets. Maybe having more casual accessories will help with the casual setting.

Post # 10
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i agree with the others. and i am having a beach wedding. couldn’t find a “beach” dress i liked….and after one dress consultant told me to stop worrying about whether the dress was “beachy” because the contrast of fancy on casual actually looks really good, i did!  i just found a dress i LOVE! and i can’t wait to wear it. i don’t think you need to worry AT ALL!

Post # 11
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would still wear it.  If your wedding is casual maybe don’t have a veil and have more fun accesories.

Post # 13
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

go for it! you’re the bride, so everyone expects you to be a little overdressed. you can downplay the formality with your accessories — a statement necklace or a colored sash maybe?

Post # 14
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am having the same issue… My dress is on the formal side, and we are having an outside ceremony and an indoor reception at an Inn. I have come to the conclusion- I DONT CARE…lol

It’s my day and I dont think anyone is really going to have an issue with it….

Good Luck !!

Post # 15
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah I bought my dress when I thought we would be getting married in DC at a hotel.  Well, uh, yeah now we’re getting married in a far less formal location by the sea!  So my all lace with some beading dress looks super formal.  But you know what?  I love the dress.  I don’t want another dress.  And I HIGHLY doubt that anyone will criticize me for having a dress that’s more formal than the venue.  And you know what?  If they do….well, then they are far too negative and need to get a life πŸ™‚

Post # 16
6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I freaked out about the same thing, and the bees told me that you can never be too dressed up for your own wedding :o). It made me feel so much better, I hope it does the same for you!

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