- 6 years ago
Hey Bee’s, sorry for the long post. I REALLY NEED ADVICE! THIS IS BAD!!
I have an amazing Hubby, Luke..Things progressed seriously in the beginning because I ran into some domestic issues. Like being thrown out onto the street and having no place to go. At the time, Luke was living in a “Bachelor pad” with a bunch of guys, where all they did was party, drink beer, and screw every chick in sight. But he decided to move out of the Frat house and get a place with me so I could have a home again. My knight in shining armor 🙂
From there on…things got BAD with one of his best friends, Sean. Sean owned the Frat house Luke was moving out of to be with me.
Months later, as Luke was going to work, He decided to leave his phone at home for me since mine just broke the day before..so I’d have it in case of emergency…Later on, Luke’s phone receives this strange text from a number not saved in his contacts. It said “Thanks for coming over last night! Muah!”
I was like WTF! I texted the person back (Yeah I know..But that’s not the kind of text a woman can just stop thinking about once she sees it!
Anyways, I asked who it was…and I got a reply that said “Carmen, duh! Last night was amazing, Tiger ;)”
(Carmen was one of Luke’s ex girlfriends)
I was speechless. I kindly told the person not to text this #, and to please respect that he’s in a seriously commited relationship. A few text exchanges later, I find out that it was SEAN texting him PRETENDING TO BE LUKES EX GF! WHO DOES THAT?!!!
Then Sean started going Apesh*t on me saying I’m a b*tch for impersonating Luke on his phone (even though all I did was ask who was texting, after that I CLEARLY stated I was Luke’s girl)(And clearly, HE was the one impersonating!)..and then he said things like “God hates you”, “Everyone wants you to die!”, “Daddy’s whore!” (I was sexually abused by my father when I was younger, so that one really stung) and something about how so many people wish they could kill me. It got to the point where I called Luke at work in tears because I’ve never read such hurtful things..especially from a person who’s never even had an actual conversation with me before. I’ve only met him twice and I was very quiet and shy, but polite and respectful.
Luke was even more livid than I was. He left work early, and went to Sean’s house waiting for him to come outside to settle this. Luke’s not the confrontational kind of guy but he could not wait to beat Sean’s *ss. Sean refused to come out of the house, nor did he answer any calls from Luke, or any text messages. Luke was outraged at how badly Sean crossed the line. Luke said Sean did all this out of jealousy being that Sean’s in his early 30’s and can never hold a relationship. But it still doesn’t make me feel any better..
After a year has past of no contact with Sean, Luke receieves a text from him, asking to meet up for some beers. I reluctantly let him go, after even more drama than I’ve listed (because this post is long enough :P), I’ve developed a very STRONG HATRED FOR SEAN. Sean apologized to Luke for putting him in the middle of that fight, but stated he’s not sorry for what he said. WHAT?!! If that makes any sense at all. Luke explained to Sean that he’s marrying me, and that he won’t allow him to talk to me like that. Ever. So I guess they’re okay now..But the problem is…I still can’t let it go. Anytime I hear Sean wants Luke to “go out”, I can only think Sean is taking him places..like Strip clubs and T*tty bars because he’s trying to steer Luke to other women. It wouldn’t be beneath Sean to try as he has in the past, But failed miserably because Luke’s a very loyal gentleman.
The problem is..I don’t want Sean at our wedding. I cannot have him sit there and pretend to support us when he’s been trying to break us up the entire time. The things he said, can’t be forgiven by me. I tried to let it go. I just can’t. And as messed up as this is already, I know Luke wants Sean at the wedding because they’ve been best friends since they were 5. I’m just lost on what to do! HELP!