HELP! My first name is my fiance\'s last name.

posted 12 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I know this isn’t traditional, but considering the circumstances, have you two considered your maiden name becoming the family name? My mom has a month name as her first and last name (not the same month, luckily!) but she has always hated being the butt end of jokes about it, and has said before she wished she had kept her maiden name. Mainly beause people make so many comments on it. Would he be against changing his name?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

If it were me I’d keep my maiden name and name my children his last name.  It’s a unique situation.  Unless he wanted to change to mine.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

I know a couple that both the groom and bride got rid of their last names and took on a completely different last name when they married. Neither of them liked their last names so it wasn’t a tough decision for them.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i have a friend whose first name is the same as her married last name.  well her first name has an extra e. she introduced herself to me as (not real name) jaime jaime.  but after that, besides being facebook friends with her, i don’t really use her last name.  so besides her names being the same, it don’t see it being a problem socially.  maybe when you write your name down, people might say something but overall i don’t think you would get comments on a daily basis.

remember the show trading space?  the host was paige davis.  she married patrick page and became paige page.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

shannybells :  Hey! This is your opportunity yo necome like Cher or Madonna…. just be Shannon! LOL

On a serious note.. I would kuat keep my maiden name.. or if he wants to switch to your last name that is cool too.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

ajillity81 :  No lie I just googled her. Haha. I mean.. I suppose that is bound to happen sometimes! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

If it was me, I’d probably either just keep my name and let the kids take his last name, or I’d ask him to take my last name.  Regardless, it doesn’t need to be a big deal.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I think I’d be tempted to keep my maiden name in this circumstance. I dont think it would be an issue to announce “Shannon & David Shannon” at the ceremony. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

One of my old hairdresser’s name was Chanel Chanel…. the same situation happened to her lol. In your case I would suggest keeping your maiden name, him changing to your last name, or both of you changing to a new, different last name.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I don’t personally see a problem with being “Shannon Shannon” – I think it’s kinda cool and would jump at it. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

shannybells :  If you really want to take your husbands name and share a surname with your kids then I’d totally embrace it!

Shannon Shannon is kind of fun and a lot of people would be tickled pink meeting a Shannon Shannon. It’s memorable and nobody would forget you in a hurry! You could also totally introduce yourself as Shannon ² 😀

If it’s not something you want then your fiancé can change his surname to yours or you could make up a new one using the letters from both of your surnames.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

This is one of those things I would have talked about as soon as we started talking about marriage, honestly. XD

But I feel that if I was in your shoes, I would probably just go as Shannon Shannon. It’s weird, but it’s not horrendous. But then again, I am a stubborn traditionalist. 🙂 

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