Post # 1
My first name (Shannon) is my fiance’s last name. We have dated for 9 years and will be getting married next year, so I guess I need to finally face the decision of what I will do. Honestly it never bothered me even when people made jokes. His last name didnt matter to me because I love him.
I am not sure if I want to change my last name or hyphenate or something else. My last name is longer than his, but its only two syllables, so its not too much of a mouthful. Others have suggested changing my first name or going by my middle name, but I couldnt imagine being called by another name and I like my first name.
I would like to have the same last name as my future children, but I am not against keeping my last name. We don’t have any family or religious restrictions, so the choice is mine.
Has anyone else been in this situation? Also would love some thoughts on how to navigate this in the ceremony. Is it okay for them to announce my name then his followed by our last?
Post # 2
I know this isn’t traditional, but considering the circumstances, have you two considered your maiden name becoming the family name? My mom has a month name as her first and last name (not the same month, luckily!) but she has always hated being the butt end of jokes about it, and has said before she wished she had kept her maiden name. Mainly beause people make so many comments on it. Would he be against changing his name?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
If it were me I’d keep my maiden name and name my children his last name. It’s a unique situation. Unless he wanted to change to mine.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall
I know a couple that both the groom and bride got rid of their last names and took on a completely different last name when they married. Neither of them liked their last names so it wasn’t a tough decision for them.
Post # 5
i have a friend whose first name is the same as her married last name. well her first name has an extra e. she introduced herself to me as (not real name) jaime jaime. but after that, besides being facebook friends with her, i don’t really use her last name. so besides her names being the same, it don’t see it being a problem socially. maybe when you write your name down, people might say something but overall i don’t think you would get comments on a daily basis.
remember the show trading space? the host was paige davis. she married patrick page and became paige page.
Post # 6
shannybells : Hey! This is your opportunity yo necome like Cher or Madonna…. just be Shannon! LOL
On a serious note.. I would kuat keep my maiden name.. or if he wants to switch to your last name that is cool too.
Post # 7
ajillity81 : No lie I just googled her. Haha. I mean.. I suppose that is bound to happen sometimes!
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for the quick responses! I will see what he thinks about changing his last name. We haven’t really discussed that yet, but that is an option too!
A salesperson at our cellphone carrier once said I could be the next Duran Duran. It’s definately a good ice breaker to bring up!
Post # 9
If it was me, I’d probably either just keep my name and let the kids take his last name, or I’d ask him to take my last name. Regardless, it doesn’t need to be a big deal.
Post # 10
ajillity81 : I didn’t know she married someone with the last name Page! I heard one of the Bush girls married someone with her first name as his last. I think he was Ralph Lauren’s son or something!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I think I’d be tempted to keep my maiden name in this circumstance. I dont think it would be an issue to announce “Shannon & David Shannon” at the ceremony.
Post # 12
One of my old hairdresser’s name was Chanel Chanel…. the same situation happened to her lol. In your case I would suggest keeping your maiden name, him changing to your last name, or both of you changing to a new, different last name.
Post # 13
I don’t personally see a problem with being “Shannon Shannon” – I think it’s kinda cool and would jump at it.
Post # 14
shannybells : If you really want to take your husbands name and share a surname with your kids then I’d totally embrace it!
Shannon Shannon is kind of fun and a lot of people would be tickled pink meeting a Shannon Shannon. It’s memorable and nobody would forget you in a hurry! You could also totally introduce yourself as Shannon ² 😀
If it’s not something you want then your fiancé can change his surname to yours or you could make up a new one using the letters from both of your surnames.
Post # 15
This is one of those things I would have talked about as soon as we started talking about marriage, honestly. XD
But I feel that if I was in your shoes, I would probably just go as Shannon Shannon. It’s weird, but it’s not horrendous. But then again, I am a stubborn traditionalist. 🙂