HELP! My first name is my fiance\'s last name.

posted 6 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
71 posts
Worker bee

I love the idea of Shannon Shannon. If you’ve always wanted to change your name to your husband’s then go for it! 

Post # 17
573 posts
Busy bee

shannybells :  My name is Shannon also! (Though my future last name isn’t the same as my first name… Though it is another first name, haha.)

I’m big on tradition so I actually want my future husband’s last name – that and I have no emotional ties to my maiden name – so if I were you, I’d change it. Shannon Shannon sounds awesome to me but if that sounds weird to you, or incomplete as a name, I’d hyphenate. That’s just my opinion, though.

You guys could also create a new family name together if you’d like. 

Post # 18
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - Saint Louis, MO

shannybells :   this would great to discuss with your fiancé if he is set on you having his last name take his. I personally would take on Shannon and become “Shannon Shannon” but I know some women already don’t like the idea of taking on their new husband’s name. 

Post # 19
5157 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Yeah I think I’d just go by Shannon Shannon. Professionally, I’d probably use a middle initial, just to break it up, but socially, people really don’t use both your names a whole lot, so I wouldn’t worry about it past the initial amusement upon first introduction. 

Post # 20
298 posts
Helper bee

I would have him take your last name. Makes the most sense.

Post # 21
271 posts
Helper bee

If I were in your situation I’d definitely keep my maiden name. I’d ask my fiance if he’d like to take my name, and if not either give the kids his name or hyphenate both names for the children. 

Post # 22
359 posts
Helper bee

My high school math teacher was Robert McRobert.

Post # 23
9354 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

Shannon Shannon is great. 

You could also professionally/socially go by Shannon Middle Name Shannon.

Post # 26
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Mount Princeton hot springs

With my first name being Taylor this is something I have worried about my whole life. I didn’t plan on changing my last name when I got married because I’ve never wanted children, but when my husband expressed to me that it was important to him I didn’t hesitate to do it. If having the same last name as your husband and/or future children is something that means a lot to you, talk to your fiancé about it and I’m sure you can come to an agreement. It would br great if he too, your last name, but, as mentioned before, I don’t think having the double name would be too terrible in day to day life. 

Post # 28
742 posts
Busy bee

Omg I would milk the heck out of it and be so excited to introduce myself. lool

Post # 29
3864 posts
Honey bee

I’ve known several people with this situation but still changed their names (Joyce, Taylor, and Kelly).  It isn’t common, but it isn’t unheard of.  Doesn’t seem to bother them any.  Some people ask to clarify to make sure they heard correctly, but other than that it is mostly just a good icebreaker at parties.

Change it if you want.  Don’t if you don’t.  Don’t let the unusual circumstance away your decision though.  I mean, we have people walking this planet with the names Moon Unit and Zuma Nesta Rock and Pilot Inspektor, so Shannon Shannon is really not that outrageous.

Post # 30
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I was in a similar situation (long term bf had a surname that sounded pretty close to my first name eg. Erin/Aaron) so I would have definitely kept my maiden name. Kids can be hyphened.

Obviously, if he’s willing to take your name or create a new one, that’s even better 🙂


Like you, it’s important to me to have my kids have the same surname as me.

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