HELP! My first name is my fiance\'s last name.

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

My first suggestion would be that you keep your maiden name or suggest that your fiance change his name to yours, but I also like the idea of incorporating use of your middle name/initial, or making your maiden name your middle name and using that, depending what you like the sound of. I think there’s something oddly distinguished about “Shannon Elizabeth Shannon” or “Shannon Beals Shannon” or something like that.

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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@ shannybells   If I was in that situation I’d probably go by a different first name. But I’m not very attached to my first name and it sounds like you are(: You should check out my post about names. It seems like there’s far worse… ex: Cherry Punch (not even kidding). I like the ideas in the comments so far about seeing if FH is willing to change. If not, you might have to play around with your own name and decide what you want to do. As for hyphenating your last name with his I just feel like it could quickly turn into a Shannon sandwhich… but then again I’m not a big fan of hyphenated names in the first place because I think they’re awkward and chunky… and I’m a traditional girl! How would you like how hyphenating your names looked?? Ex: Shannon Jones-Shannon? I feel like people could get confused about why Shannon is there twice… but then again Shannon Shannon could be confusing too. Would you go by a nickname for Shannon? Like Shay or Shana? Idk girl(: you’ll have to let us know what you do!

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Just keep your name! This is a remarkably simple solution because it requires you to do absolutely nothing.

Post # 34
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Worker bee

First thing I thought of was Lauren Bush-Lauren. I guess if it were me, I’d hyphenate like that, or as some other ladies suggested, start using your middle name in between.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

What about Shannon your last name-Shannon 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@ shannybells   I’m here to second the idea of choosing a different name but making it a family one. My DH and I chose to take on his mother’s maiden name as it was no longer going to carry forward in their line. DH has married brothers so DH’s father was not too concerned. I am not much of a traditionalist in terms of wanting “his” name but I did want an “our” name. 

We made it part of the ceremony in lieu of a unity ceremony. His side was SHOCKED but happy. It was fun. 

Side fact… if you go this route have him change his name FIRST and he will legally be this name when you guys get married and get your license. It is SO MUCH paperwork for me having to explain my husband was AB when we got married but now is AX and I’m going from BK to BX not BB… very…. very… ANNOYING

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We have friends in the exact same situation, literally.  Her name is Shannon, his last name is Shannon.  However, they are already married and she chose to keep her maiden name.  

I also know a Gunder Gunderson, which I think is a brilliant name.  

I’m weird, I would 100 percent, without a doubt, take his last name.  But I like funny and unusual things, so that would be right up my alley.  It’d be a good way to break the ice when meeting new people, you could just sign your name Shannon X 2, and other such lame ideas.  Plus, I don’t personally like the idea of having a different last name from my kids if it’s possible to avoid it.  

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’d keep my maiden name. Your kids would technically share your given name as it will be their family name. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My middle name was a mouthful and the same as my husband’s last name but spelled slightly differently (so had I taken his, I basically would have been Leah Rueter Reuter). We ended up both changing our names. Our similar name conundrum was not the only reason we changed our names, but it is what lead to the initial conversations. Seriously girl, you have so many options! Explore them and decide what feels right for you two. We love having a new last name that we chose as a family.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I was firmly in the change my name camp, but I would keep my maiden name in this case. 

I’m just thinking of all the forms you fill out in your life, and the government coming back saying that it’s been filled out incorrectly or something. 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Thanks bees, for bringing a bit of levity to the boards!  🙂

I think all the choices that people mentioned are fine.  S sqared is kinda fun actually.  I had friends who got married and both changed their last name to O’Reilly-Shah.  A lof of my friends also keep their maiden name or make it their official middle name.  So many options, good luck, and let us know what you guys do!

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I kept my last name, so that’s what I’d do. Would have loved my husband to take my name though! Shannon Shannon is pretty funny/quirky, so as long as you don’t mind people commenting and getting into funny confusions then you could go for it haha. 

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