Post # 16
I think it is great that you were honest with her. I bet your grandma is wishing she didn’t say anything and let you be happy. I think you have to decide what will make you happiest / feel best in the long run. Will you love your pictures more in the dress you love or the one your grandma made? Or is it that you can’t really take back what you said so it’s better to wear the dress you love since your grandma knows your preferences. You feel badly that your grandma feels badly. You appreciate what she has done for you. Tell her that! I’m guessing she loves say she loves you and wants you to feel beautiful and happy.if you do wear your grandmas can you wear the dress you bought for just your fiancé at home and have s special dinner?
Post # 17
So you are asking people to be your vendors for free at your wedding, and you’re surprised that your grandmother’s feelings are hurt?
Post # 18
I’d wear the dream dress. Your grandmother is acting very childish by saying you shouldn’t wear it at all. I’d be hurt too. But to say that is rude!
Post # 19
This is your mother’s mother? I’d enlist help from mom. See if she can’t talk some sense into grandma. Ultimately if it came down to hurting my grandmother I’d suck it up and wear her dress, but my only living grandmother was in her 90s when I got married, I wouldn’t have thought I’d have time to fix it. If your family is young and grandma is like 60 then shoot, wear the dress you love, she’ll get over it.
Post # 20
I would not “suck it up” and wear a frumpy dress that made me feel fat and ugly for my wedding, no matter whose feelings were hurt.
Post # 21
I’d wear the dress you bought. Grandma was sweet for offering, but I saw the pics before you took them down. Grandma’s dress was way off the mark. I wouldn’t wear it at all, but you are sweet to suggest her shortening it to make it a rehearsal dress.
Post # 22
This a challenging position to be in. My mother is making my dress so I really feel for you. In your position I would go on and wear the dress my grandmother made for the rehearsal dinner or for a part of the reception and I would find some way to acknowledge the special elements of the dress for others to know how much love and effort was put into it. I would also wear the dress of my dreams for the ceremony and be sure that I got pictures in both if possible.
It sounds like your wedding is being put together with a lot of love and that it will be beautiful.
Post # 23
I would wear the dream dress. I would also be very apologetic to grandmother and try to “butter her up” in other ways but please don’t harbor guilt over this.
Post # 24
I can see why she was upset and had every reason to be. She put a lot of hard work into this dress and now you’re pushing it to the side and bought another. This is a task you asked of her. To her it seems like you didn’t appreciate her and her work. The only way to solve it would be to wear her dress, or be completely honest and apologize and recognize she may stay upset and has every reason to, but I get that you want your dream dress. Just think about what your priorities are, fixing things with your grandma or having your perfect dress? (This is why you don’t assign wedding jobs to friends and family as free labor, it will most likely go wrong)
Post # 25
btob17 : Right on the money
Post # 26
lol @ the other post being closed now.
You fucked up dude. Get over it and fix it. Your grandma isn’t going to live forever.